Compare my words of tolerance to this:burgs wrote:Tolerance? How beneficent. I tolerate the fact that registered sex offenders live on my street, because there's simply nothing I can do about it. I know where they are (I'm in Chicago, big city-wide database), and I know what they look like.Malik23 wrote:Having gay friends, or agreeing that gay people should be allowed to get married, or not stoning them in the town square--that's different. That's tolerance.
To say that you tolerate homosexuals is a flat out insult.
burgs wrote: Oh, and I'm pretty sure that Eragon is gay. Paolini's a pussy. (That's my first attempt at so-called gallows humor. Kind of. I loathe Eragon.)
And that's not insulting? You don't give any evidence of Eragon's homosexuality. You immediately follow up with the writer being a pussy, as if a conclusion of homosexuality can be derived from the writer's "manhood." And then you talk about how much you loathe Eragon . . . with the implicit conclusion that your loathing is connected to both unmanly men (pussies) and homosexuality.
There's nothing insulting about tolerating someone you personally find repulsive. The fact that I tolerate them, despite how repulsive I find them, should be a point in my favor, shouldn't it? I can't help the fact that I find it repulsive. That's called being heterosexual, not homophobic. I wouldn't be a heterosexual male if the idea of two guys getting it on wasn't a turn-off. Not all guys are indifferent about drag queens hitting on them. If that's the way you like to spend an evening, man, we're just different kinds of men.
Who said anything about being predatory? Are you predatory when you check out a woman's ass?burgs wrote:Malik23 wrote: but I definitely prefer to hang out with guys where the question of sexual tension doesn't even occur to either one of us because we both like women. I don't want to think, "Was he checking out my ass?" when I turn around.
I understand the desire to hang out with "your own". Gay men make that choice, as do gay women. So do different ethnic groups. It's about what makes you comfortable, where you feel you fit in, etc.
However, heterosexual men just need to get the idea that gay men are inherently predatory and are going to go after whatever the can get, straight or gay, out of their head.
Yep, just like me. I prefer my own. Including characters I read about. And gay people would like to see more gay characters for exactly the same reason. The only difference is that gay people don't get criticized for wanting to see more gay characters. No, this isn't "heterophobic." But if I want to see less gay characters, I'm somehow homophobic. Does not compute.burgs wrote: . . . it should be understood that the VAST majority of gay men prefer to be with their own. That's just common sense.
Well, then you must be more desperate for compliments than I am. Do you really find it equally complimentary when an old or ugly lady checks you out, compared to when a hot young woman checks you out (assuming that they do check you out)? If you can admit that there is a spectrum of "complimentary," then you must acknowledge one side of the scale decreases. At the point when the compliment comes from someone you find sexually repulsive, their attention no longer becomes a compliment. I wouldn't, for instance, find it complimentary if my mother told me I have a sexy ass. Or my son. It would be disgusting. Just like if another man told me I have a sexy ass. Disgusting. But if that makes you feel good, well, like I said above . . . we're different kind of men. Sexual attention from other men does NOT make me feel all warm inside.burgs wrote: And hey - if anyone gets checked out by a homosexual, aren't you being complimented? I feel complimented regardless of who finds me attractive.
So no one should be offended by unwanted sexual advances? An employee shouldn't be offended by her boss coming on to her? Or a woman shouldn't be offended by cat-calling construction workers as she walks down the street? I think that any time someone continues to make unwanted sexual advances, it is offensive and insulting behavior. It's rude, and I personally wouldn't put up with it. But then, I'm not a pussy.burgs wrote:When I was in college, I worked at Maggiano's Little Italy, the very first one to open in the country. On opening night, one of the most popular, well known drag queens in Chicago, Chile Pepper, was in my section. She gave me a *lot* of attention, and was gracious with her compliments. I wasn't remotely interested in her, but I wasn't offended. She didn't try to stick her hands down my pants...so why should I care?