I'm not lumping at all. I was responding to a personal anecdote posted by Burgs.variol son wrote: One thing Malick, can you please stop lumping all gay men in the drag queens who hit on straight guys category?I'm sure there are many out there, but I'm not one and neither are any of the gay guys I know.
That's a perfectly reasonable desire. I'm sure black people feel that way. And Asians, and women. No one wants to feel they are being excluded. Especially if that exclusion is a product of racism or homophobia. I understand this, and I agree with you. At the same time, perhaps you can understand that it's reasonable for people who don't fit into those groups to resent being preached at and judged simply because they enjoy being included in their own groups, with people they can relate to. I don't want to read about a character simply because he fills a quota, and someone in the real world feels insulted when this quota isn't met. If that were the case, every work of fiction would include a realistic proportion of American Indians, Africans, Europeans, etc., etc. It would be too contrived and politically-driven to suspend disbelief.Starkin wrote: As a gay person, I would just like to see gay people represented. That's all. I look at it this way: no matter what world or dimension or universe human beings are living in, you're going to have gay people. At least 10% of the population! Smile
No one has suggested there is a "homophobia gene," any more than someone has suggested there is a "racism gene." I wasn't talking about homophobia at all, but instead a simple repulsion for an activity. You seem to imply that this repulsion is the same as homophobia. Not true. I might find bulimia repulsive, but it doesn't mean I hate or fear bulimics. Vomit is repulsive. Certainly there's a genetic reason why we vomit, and an evolutionary benefit. Repulsion is certainly coded in our genes with regards to which substances we should put in our bodies for food. Otherwise, we'd be eating stuff that killed us. Just as repulsion with regards to food makes sense biologically, so to does repulsion with regards to sex that deters reproduction. There's nothing hateful or fearful about what I'm suggesting. It's perfectly plausible in scientific terms.Charles Timewaster wrote: Here's a rephrased version: "Homophobia was common in Nazi Germany, but homosexuals are much more accepted in Germany today. If there was a 'homophobia gene', how did it vanish so quickly? Isn't it more likely that the change was cultural rather than genetic?"
You can't examine the issue of gay characters in books without examining the possible reasons why people would or would not like this. I don't think it's silly at all. And I bet people like Starkin don't think it's silly. For you to say that gays wanting more gay characters in books is a silly desire, is more insulting to gays than anything I've said here. Obviously, they feel passionately about it, and there's nothing wrong with that.Charles Timewaster wrote: Well, I think they've got a point. I mean, this started out as a nice silly thread about what might have happened if Covenant had been gay. And all of a sudden you barged in and announced that you don't want to read any books with gay characters and that you'll never rent "Brokeback Mountain"and so on and so forth.
I don't think gays need me to tell them that heterosexual people find their form of sex distasteful. Yet, if we ignore this factor when asking this question (i.e., why aren't there more gay characters in fantasy?), then we're ignoring an important, real component of this issue. I'm not amazed that people get offended by what I say. I'm amazed that people think I shouldn't say it merely because it's offensive--and then they spend pages arguing that it isn't true, as if these are the same issue.Charles Timewaster wrote: I mean, it's one thing to be privately disgusted by gay people. It's another thing to blurt it out on a message board that's frequented by gay and gay-friendly people and then stand slack-jawed in amazement when they get insulted. Were you trying to accomplish something, or is this something else that you're "biologically programmed" to do?
I see the same slack-jawed amazement from your side of the debate: many of you seem shocked that some people find gay sex offensive. And yet, we're supposed to have "silly threads" about things people find offensive as if it were nothing more than silly fun. And then this thread only gets serious when people like me voice their offense. (Personally, I thought it was serious even before I stated my reasons for not wanting gay characters.) But the only offense which you find reasonable to voice is the offense of people being insulted by those voicing their offense.
You ask me what I was trying to accomplish? I'm trying to point out this double-standard that only gays have a legitimate perspective in this debate. I'm trying to fight the ad hominem attack that repulsion equals phobia and repression. I'm taking up for my personal preferences because gays have no problem taking up for theirs. Indeed, this question wouldn't even be asked if there weren't a perceived "unfairness" about a perfectly reasonable lack of gay characters: the writer didn't want to write about it, and the readers largely don't want to read it. You might as well call Donaldson a homophobe for not making Covenant gay, if you're going to call me a homophobe for appreciate Covenant not being gay.
True, I don't need to. I could let people call me names which I find offensive and not respond because they might find it offensive that I take up for myself. While that's true, I find it confusing. Why take up for people's right to throw around offensive slanderous terms but not take up for people's right to defend themselves? Is taking on the PC movement really worse than calling someone a homophobic bigot?Burgs wrote: And if they want to call you a homophobic bigot, you don't need to immediately attack them or their beliefs by lashing out at the "PC" movement.
If I were raised by Rosie and her partner, I would absolutely feel just as grossed out about their sex as I would sex between two men. [Ha! A Rosie-is-fat-and-ugly-slam!] But I think most people would be grossed out thinking about sex between their parents. Does this mean they are parent-phobic? Of course not. It's not even insulting. Sometimes being grossed out about other people's sex life is perfectly normal. I mean really, can you guys think about your parents having sex without immediately wanting to think about something else instead? How about father-and-son sex? Don't we all find that distasteful? Does this mean we have a phobia against fathers and sons? Of course not. The point I'm making here seems so obvious to me, the only thing that I can imagine keeping people from agreeing with such a position is the brainwashing and guilt factor of political correctness. Which is why I attack it. You guys would attack a movement, too, if it said you're a bigot because you think the idea of father-and-son sex is gross. Wouldn't you?Although I disagree with your belief, it's yours, and you're entitled to it. But I have to ask... What if you had been adopted by Rosie O'Donnell and her partner? You probably wouldn't be homophobic. If you can specifically point to your upbringing as to why you're homophobic, then could you take a step further and think that might not have been a good thing?
Repulsion doesn't equal bigotry. To say so discriminates against natural repulsion.