I feel very confused. I thought about putting this post in The Inner Garden and going off on a long discourse that would drive the moderators crazy and no one would pay attention to anyway.
I guess my horoscope was right= you are heading into uncharted territory where even friends, teachers and guides can't help you.
OMG
Anyway, it's probably due to the dang book I'm reading which is Tolle's A New Earth. I'm not advocating the book, but it does, essentially, say don't worry if you disagree with the author and what's being said, simply allow the book to change you. OK, so I'm doing that and now I'm changing and it's weird. I still can't get over what just happened at my barber, or should I say ex-barber.
She's a very nice Korean (I think, it doesn't matter) girl that I go to every 6 months from a trim and she always cuts my hair the same way. Today I wanted it cut differently and I don't think she could understand that. I've noticed that she uses the razor extensively with all her customers and I simply wanted her to use just scissors-and I said, matter of factly with a very level tone that I didn't want her to use a razor this time. Then she went, "I don't why you come in and argue with me everytime-you need to leave and never come back." So I did and I won't. Actually, since she just raised her price 6 dollars, I can get my hair cut the way I like it at a cheaper place. So I don't know what's happened to the customer being always right. I wasn't argueing with her at all.
The only other time I ever said anything to her matter of fact was a year ago when I brought my daughter in for a hair cut. I said I wanted her hair cut one way and she said, but her mother always has it cut like this, to which I simply said, "I'm not her mother." How and why she, apparently, remembered this after a year is beyond me. Other than that we have always been friendly and I have tipped her very well.
The dang book would say,
now that you are beginning to come into Awarness and are recognizing your egoic patterns, some of who you come in contact with will see a reflection of their own in the absence of your non-reactivity. So maybe something completely different was stuck in her craw-oh well no big loss (I don't like having my hair cut anyway) except a customer, to her.
I shouldn't have even thought about the incident, I've been working really hard to be non-judgemental and telling my ego to take a hike, but ever since then I've been having judgements coming out my ass. The book would say
at least you are recoginizing those judgements...