Yes -- good luck, Jenn. Dunno what would be better to do first, in your case -- find the job first, or move first. Maybe moving first would be better, since you have family there (as long as they wouldn't drive you crazy -- my family of origin certainly would, if I had to live with them again...).
SD, I'm of two minds about this push to get lorin out of NYC. Maybe it's because I'm in a similar situation to hers (although my job isn't as soul-sucking -- it's just boring).
I've been whining since 1999 about how much I hate DC and want to move back to Colorado, but there's always a reason why I can't do it right now. Bottom line is that if I were really, truly burning to do it, I'd be gone. Maybe it's complacency, or maybe I'm waiting for the "perfect moment" that will never get here, or maybe it's fear that things will be worse if I move (or will be exactly the same!).* Maybe "I'm leaving for Colorado eventually" gives me an excuse not to settle in here (I've suspected this last one for quite awhile). Maybe money really *is* a factor. All I know is that I keep pushing my departure date farther out into the future. First it was gonna be when the kids finished college; then they both picked the same college in Virginia, and so I felt like I should stay 'til they graduated. Now they're both out, but Magickmaker is home and I feel like she would have better job opportunities in her field here in DC and maybe I should stay around 'til she's settled. And anyhow I've got a mountain of debt from putting them through school, which co-ink-a-dink-ally will be paid off the year before I turn 62.
See? It's always something.
Granted, lorin has different kid-centered issues than I do. But her retirement timeline is shorter than mine, too. Really, at less than five years out, she's on the downslope -- the time will whiz by for her (ONCE SHE MOVES

). I wish I were less than five years out.... (And apologies, lorin, for talking about you in the third person!)
* Re things being worse, or not: I work for great people right now, and if I changed jobs, I might find myself working for a jerk. I'm also not sure that I want to do what I'm doing now for the next eight years, but I don't know what else I would do. I'm kind of locked into secretarial work at this point, all my other skills having atrophied from disuse in this job -- but it's not a job that plays to my strengths. Going back into broadcasting would mean retraining for sure, due to the digital revolution; for starters, I'd need to learn digital audio editing. Basically, there's a very real possibility that if I relocate, I could end up with another boring job, making less money, with a jerk for a boss -- but with better scenery. Not sure the tradeoff would be worth it. Hence, the current plan is to retire and then move.