Actually Cail, in some circumstances a relationship like this can work. My paternal grandmother was a sixteen year old runaway when she married my middle aged widower paternal grandfather. Some of the kids from his first marriage were older than she was.Cail wrote:Be that as it may, it was not only acceptable but expected for girls to marry off as soon as they reached child-bearing age in the not-too-distant past. Our cultural aversion to "underage" sex is a construct of our society, and a direct result of not needing additional farmhands or other laborers.
Edit-I want to make it clear that I'm in no way condoning adults having sex with minors, nor am I minimizing any pain caused by people that would do such a thing. I'm simply pointing out that this "wrongness" is relatively recent.
The tragedy of my grandmother's life was not that she married my grandfather. It was not that she had ten kids in ten years following the marriage. It wasn't even that one of those kids died, something which haunted the whole family for the rest of their lives.
The tragedy was that my grandfather died, and she had to go back to her abusive birth family with her younger step children and biological children, and then they all got the shit knocked out of them on a regular basis.
Given what she came from (and went back to), marrying a guy a lot older than she was was the better choice.
And to give you an idea of the age difference, I am 43. My grandfather was a veteran of the Spanish American War.
But some key points here:
* my grandmother chose this marriage
* she was his only living wife, and got his attention and support without having to share it with a bunch of other wives
* as long as he was alive he did his best to financially support her and the kids
* 16, while still very young, is still more physically/emotionally ready for sex and marriage and parenthood than 12 or 13
* she was not closely biologically related to my grandfather
These guys from the Jeffs (and similar) cults
* do not give the girls a choice
* in some cases, they are very close relatives (even, in a couple of cases, the girls' fathers)
* do not limit themselves to even 2-3 wives, as some cultures and religions permit - they often get far more than that
* often do not support the wives or their children financially (the state of Utah is going after some of these guys with fraud charges as well as rape charges, as the secondary wives and their kids all go on welfare, with "unknown" for the father on the birth certificates for the kids)
Google the news on this stuff. There have been many court cases in Utah and Arizona (and I believe Nevada as well) in the past few years.