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hmm….
I can probably find enough lemmings or tribbles for that for next month, but I’ll have to search pretty diligently for enough rabbits.
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:LOLS:

Quite right 🐰 🐇 🐰 🐇 🐰 🐇
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Yes, it’s Star Wars Day, but the Kent State Massacre needs to be remembered as well…
https://youtu.be/l1PrUU2S_iw
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+JMJ+

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Ooo…
Only a day off this year between Star Wars Day and Pesach Sheni…
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However, for today specifically…
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Last one…
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wow it’s a meme-fest lol 😂
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I know it commemorates Lag BaOmer.
But I can’t read cursive Hebrew. Does anyone care to translate?
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It’s Armed Forces Day here in the States.
To those currently enlisted...
Thank you for your service.
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+JMJ+
Menolly wrote: In remembrance of all who served and gave the ultimate sacrifice.

Happy Memorial Day!

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I feel like I have a lot to do and I don't feel like doing any of it. :D

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Rabbit
Rabbit!
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The rabbit might have worked this time. I'm not sure. I went from feeling like I was on death row to cautiously optimistic. We'll see.

You know, I sent you a friend request on facebook, and you ignored me. Bad bunny! Bad!
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Khaliban wrote: The rabbit might have worked this time. I'm not sure. I went from feeling like I was on death row to cautiously optimistic. We'll see.
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Khaliban wrote:You know, I sent you a friend request on facebook, and you ignored me. Bad bunny! Bad!
hmm…
Would I have recognized the username on Facebook?
Or
Oh! Did you send it to the Illume Eltanin account in the last couple of months? I’ve been locked out of that account and am now using one in my mundane name, but with the same profile picture the Illume Eltanin account had.
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Pamela Wagner, early May. You probably didn't recognize the name. I also commented on the giant bagel video.
"This is the sort of bloody nonsense up with which I will not put."


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Cautiously optimistic.

I'm trying to process the situation, but I welcome any feedback.

In December, I discovered I was in love with a married woman. If you want the background, read my Hall of Gifts post, A Life Never Lived. Anyway, I've been suffering from severe depression for six months, because I can't be with her. Part of me wanted to tell her, part of me wanted to keep it all away from her. December and January were very rough, but I made it through. February and March, I seemed to level out. I thought that would be my new normal, a low grade depression as the price of being in love with her. I was wrong. In April, I got worse. Staying out of her life, not contacting her, became more difficult. Bad days occurred more often and lasted longer. The downward trajectory continued in May. I couldn't accept the reality of the situation. I knew it, but I ran from it. The idea of never being with her hurt more than I could take.

You must understand, I have Asperger's Syndrome. I shouldn't be able to fall in love. But I found a way around it, accidentally, and I didn't know it was happening until I was already there. I found everything I always wanted, I fell in love with the person I would have picked above everyone else, and I could do nothing about it. I would be vilified if I tried.

In May, I decided to tell her. I could finally get it out and hear a polite but clear rejection. I would feel lousy for a few months, but maybe I could move forward.

I wanted to be polite in how I contacted her, so I called her mother and left a message. No response. I called her mother again. This time, I spoke to her. I explained I was suffering from severe depression. Her daughter was an element of it, but I didn't go into detail. I hoped a conversation with her daughter would clear my head. Fifteen minutes. Twenty, tops. Still no response. Fine, the woman I love won't give me fifteen minutes to help me with severe depression. I took that as a rejection. I was also hyperfocused at this point, so I didn't consider the possibility that she might be going through something too. I get like that when I'm hyperfocused. Anyway, I felt I had the rejection, but I hadn't told her. I wanted to know she knew. Selfish, I'm sure, but it meant something to me.

I spoke to her mother again. I thanked her for trying to help and promised I would never contact her again. I was about to ask if I could explain everything when she asked me if I was married. No, I'm not. Then she asked why I was interested in her daughter. Okay. I launched into my speech, explaining Asperger's Syndrome and emotional isolation. And she asked me where I lived. Coincidentally, about twenty-five miles away. She sounded happy about that. I continued with the speech, finally dropping the bomb that I was in love with her daughter. I told her I hoped that didn't offend her. No, that didn't offend her. She sounded happy about that too. I started telling her all the things I wanted to say to her daughter. Her daughter was the best I ever found. If I could have fallen in love with anyone-- She asked me if I had a good job. Yes, they really like my work. Then she asked for my phone number. She really, really wanted my phone number. Then, she told me she'd pray for me. Then she did. Over the phone. I went from feeling like I was on death row to WTF.

That conversation happened Memorial Day, and I'm still trying to process it. I told my therapist, and she's still trying to process it.

How optimistic should I be?
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Post by Savor Dam »

I get it. Many years ago (2009), a prominent Watcher and I (both long married) had our friendly correspondence abruptly catch fire.

This helped both of us stay centered.
In 'I Know You're Out There Somewhere', The Moody Blues wrote:The secret of your beauty
And the mystery of your soul
I've been searching for in everyone I meet
And the times I've been mistaken
It's impossible to say
And the grass is growing underneath our feet
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The words that I remember
From my childhood still are true
That there's none so blind
As those who will not see
And to those who lack the courage
And say it's dangerous to try
Well they just don't know
That love eternal will not be denied
Many years later, we are still married to our spouses (with whom both of us were honest about what was happening), but still deeply bonded to each other. Sometimes the stars align and things work out, if everyone puts the work in.

Sure, be optimistic, but measured. Understand that the other person is probably already securely attached; approach this with no expectation, only openness to what may develop. This may turn out to be important to one or both of you...or nothing at all.

Linna's blurb in her avatar block "Are you not a sine qua non for a redemption?" comes to mind.
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No, you don't get it.

On the one hand, thank you for trying. On the other hand, she is the only person on the planet I have ever loved and probably the only one I ever will love. That's not hyperbole. As I said, I have Asperger's. I shouldn't have been able to do this in the first place, and I can't do it again. The conditions required to make this work are no longer present in my life. I've asked the Asperger community, but, as far as I can tell, I'm the only one of us to succeed at this. I'm also not tempting anyone. If anything is happening, it was happening before I called.

Sorry. I'm new to this whole love thing, and I'm not doing a great job with it. But, this is not a situation where the familiar applies.
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