Wow- great responses guys!
Avatar wrote:Cambo wrote:
Did I ask you?
Hahaha, my standard reply to that is "If I waited to be asked, I'd never say anything."
--A
That explains your post count.
Vraith wrote:And...related to something Linna said...it might even be true that "no one likes you" in particular situations. Been there done that. The trick is discovering WHY...cuz maybe you suck, but you probably don't; mostly it's them that sucks and they "hate" you cuz you don't.
Yeah, I don't think we should just dismiss negative or hurtful things people say to or about us. Nor should we just take them as true on face value. We should examine them, hold them up against everything we know about ourselves and everything we know about the person saying them. Sometimes you'll learn something about yourself, more often you'll learn something about your attacker.
Linna wrote:Except there is this sadness: if he spoke those words amid the group, and others who were open to a different position (on the matter of liking you or not) remained silent... they DID give him some manner of permission to speak for the group (if not EVERYONE). *hug*
And I have surely done that number before; I'm sure we all have.
Yeah, nah, they all hated me.
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But I know what you mean; around that era, I would keep a cowardly silence whenever someone else was copping flak, just grateful that I was getting a break. Not proud of that.
[quote="Deer"Most of the posts in this thread have a common subtext: that the ability to laugh, at oneself and others, is powerful defense against words that wound.[/quote]
I would add learn how to laugh at yourself
before you laugh at others. Then you'll know how to laugh with compassion and true humour, not just spite.
Lord Foul wrote:And the old chestnut: they're off being morons, getting drunk, complaining about age in their 20s. What they want to do. What they did in high school. And bagging my groceries.
Apologies to any supermarket employees.
Hey, hey! Why, I oughta....wait, how much did you say you can benchpress? Apologies, sir, would you like your bottles double-bagged?