Zarathustra wrote:Your strategy empowers those who would abuse the rules and decorum, for the sake of avoiding confrontation. That's noble of you, to some extent, but it doesn't sit well with me. What do people like me do who feel that avoiding a confrontation is a measure of weakness and surrender (due to our personalities, not a general judgment applying to you)? Basically your solution is that I should alter my personality to be more like you. That's exactly the kind of, "You should be less aggressive, Z" that others have tried to enforce. Why put limits on those with stronger personalities, instead of simply enforcing the rules? This strategy just feels so inauthentic to me. Maybe you can be true to yourself and ignore false accusations, but I can't. Or maybe you don't receive as many false accusations?
For to win one hundred victories in one hundred battles is not the acme of skill. To subdue the enemy without fighting is the acme of skill. -- Sun Tzu
Don't think of it in terms of "winning" and "losing". Instead, keep it in mind that a discussion on the Internet is like playing in a band--if the music becomes dissonant or unenjoyable then quit playing.If your opponent is of choleric temperament, seek to irritate him. -- Sun Tzu
In short, never wrestle with a pig--you will get dirty and the pig enjoys it. The people who find loopholes in the rules of a forum make themselves known through their actions. Our only responsibility is to hold up the mirror, show them what they look like, then let them bask in the glow of their purely imaginary and meaningless "victory".
There was a memorable episode of Star Trek: The Next Generation where Data played some futuritic strategy board game against a grandmaster. Despite having a brain that can process information far faster and more efficiently, Data was soundly defeated. After rethinking his tactics, they had a rematch. This time, Data did not lose but the grandmaster did not win. In fact, the game went on and on to the point where the grandmaster resigned in an immature huff--if he couldn't win he wasn't going to play any more. What made the difference? Data had changed his tactics from "I must win" to "I will block him from winning". This is the essence of how I engage potential trolls and/or arguments on the Internet. Is it passive-aggressive? Absolutely. Does it work? Beautifully. Does it work in real life? Heavens, no--in offline life this behavior makes you the troll...which in decades past was called "being a dick".
As far as false accusations or insults...honestly, I couldn't care less. The beauty of an online forum is that no one can misquote you and as long as you don't take anything personally their insults are, like the insulter themselves, irrelevant.
I will, however, drop the suggestion to do what I would do--that is a little arrogant even for me, I have to admit...and I can be damned arrogant from time to time.