Kevin's Watch

Ah, TCTC fans. Such lushes!

Creator wrote:Nice to hear from you Marv! Good choice with avoiding the whole Port bottle!!

Yes, that was probably for the best, but...mmmm, port is nice.

I like port too, but making an effort to put away a lot of it at one time.... Well I think that's the recipe for a monster hangover.

Well indeed. Oddly, though, I once drank a full bottle of port in the last hour or so of Dark City, and couldn't tell I'd had even a glass of it. Perhaps I'm developing port immunity.

The mixing is definitely bad though. One of the few things my parents ever told me about drinking.

I feel. . . a bit conflicted. It's a bit complicated, so I guess I have to explain.

I met a guy several weeks ago through friends of a friend. Since then I've run into him and we've talked very briefly two-three times. Each time he seemed to be giving off signals that he was interested in me--smiling at me, looking right into my eyes, etc. I hear (and have observed) that he is a very quiet, shy person. He apparently warms up and is very talkative once someone starts talking to him, though. I'm interested in getting to know him better, but the fact that he isn't making any move to get to know me better makes me wonder if I am misreading the signals. I mean, he could easily arrange to hang out with me and my friends, or make a move when I do run into him on occassion with his friends.

Gah! I'm sooo rusty at this whole dating thing. Ordinarily I'd say that he isn't that into me, and just move on, but the fact that he is supershy makes me wonder if he just isn't ready to make a move yet.

I'm conflicted because I don't know what to do about the situation: 1) encourage him, 2)ask him out--not exactly comfortable with this, or 3) write him off entirely.

Men are sooo confusing.

Make the move!

If he's shy, he might not make the move on you.

What Balon said, Lyr!

Just make it a very casual thing first, a simple cup of coffee/day meet in a public place (shyboys get so scared of confident women!! hahaha) Just talk. And drink non-alc stuff. Then you get to know the person better. And yeah, shyboys need to be coaxed outa their shell, SLOWLY.

Elfgirl wrote:What Balon said, Lyr!

Just make it a very casual thing first, a simple cup of coffee/day meet in a public place (shyboys get so scared of confident women!! hahaha) Just talk. And drink non-alc stuff. Then you get to know the person better. And yeah, shyboys need to be coaxed outa their shell, SLOWLY.

Hehehe. . . I'm not a very confident woman. That's the problem. I'm usually quite oblivious to men who are interested in me. In fact, I'm usually the last one to know that they're interested. I seem to stumble into relationships. No, I'm not a confident woman. . . just envision a more nerdy Bridget Jones and you've got me.

I love my life!

I'm sure at some stage I must have taken some drugs and I've been wacked out on some trip ever since! Eventually I'm going to wake up and think "how bizarre was all that!"

We all do. It's called dying.

--A

Avatar wrote: We all do. It's called dying.

....aaahhhhhhh.

Yeah, ok, so I'm just gunna enjoy this "trip"...as insane as it has become!

That's the only way to do it. Take it as it comes, and enjy it as much as you can.

--A

Sore as a mofo. I moved into my own apartment this weekend (YAY!).

Congrats.

--A

Wyldewode wrote:

Elfgirl wrote:What Balon said, Lyr!

Just make it a very casual thing first, a simple cup of coffee/day meet in a public place (shyboys get so scared of confident women!! hahaha) Just talk. And drink non-alc stuff. Then you get to know the person better. And yeah, shyboys need to be coaxed outa their shell, SLOWLY.

Hehehe. . . I'm not a very confident woman. That's the problem. I'm usually quite oblivious to men who are interested in me. In fact, I'm usually the last one to know that they're interested. I seem to stumble into relationships. No, I'm not a confident woman. . . just envision a more nerdy Bridget Jones and you've got me.

Men, particularly shy men, tend to like it when a woman makes the first move. It's flattering, and a huge relief; we're so often expected to do all the chasing/asking out/etc that it can be quite intimidating. Also, I've never asked a girl out and got a yes; that kind of track record isn't uncommon and can easily add to the existing intimidation factor.

Don't worry about coming across as confident. It's fine to be nervous and a bit Bridget-like. And, as Elfgirl said, take it gently to begin with, just coffee or something, stuff that isn't too full-on date-like. Just something little like that, that says "I'd like to spend a bit more time in your company, if that's ok". You can do it.

Elfy, were I not one the most happily married scmoes on the planet, I'd fly you over for a date! For the record, that is.

One of my best friends is ignoring me, because he has a new girlfriend. Mleh. I wish him well and all, but I miss the time we used to spend together. I also know when all is said and done, he will come running back to me, and the question is, will I be stupid enough to wait for him, or will I be smart enough to move on?

He's just a friend, right? I say give him a break. If' he's an on-again off-again boyfriend, I say mave on. But hell, I'm not quite Dear Abbey, so do what you want.

Yes, a friend. Not romantic at all. However, he has been my stand in when needed, so I suppose I am being selfish and a little bit jealous.

I just don't like it, darnit!

I want things to be the way they were!


WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH!

If he's your friend, get out of his way, LR! Girlfriends don't seem to like the just-friends girl competing for a man's attention during that early, insecure stage. At least, so I gather from watching Grey's Anatomy...