Kevin's Watch

ok their dad has sole custody of them now!

SQ, I'm sorry for what you're going through. I hope you'll feel comfortable enough to share the whole story with us eventually, tho. Right now I can't really tell what's going on. You did have a court date, or no? If your ex has sole custody now, then there must have been a hearing. And why is your priest telling you to give things more time?

Cag: at the risk of reprising a Mel Brooks routine, "What lump?"

Yes, we had a court date today, but I missed it completely I was not even aware where it was. My friend Matt Roberts has experience with this stuff. He said if they did not give me enough information about it I would not know where to go? I have a psychic reading at the Enchanted Forest tomorrow. I tried to get one online but I would rather go there. Oh he says priests can be very good witnesses as well. We might ask Fr. Hector to go if Mackie was still alive she would have thought this was wrong. That is my ex's grandmother, but she died already.

I understand your wanting to get counseling, but it sounds like you need a lawyer worse. The court should have mailed you something, saying when and where the hearing was.

I know that! His grandmother was a wonderful woman.

No offense, but not knowing where the court hearing was is a pathetic excuse for not trying to get your kids back. Every mother I know would have moved heaven and earth to get the missing information needed to be there. That, combined with trying to communicate with your dead ex-mother in law, makes me wonder if you're dealing with a full deck here. Actually, I've wondered about your sanity since you first joined.

Tell me, have you had dinner with Lord Foul lately?

Uh no.

just found my friends uncle was murdered this morning. just got the text seconds ago.

knew the uncle had died but the circumstance. will have more later.

I am so sorry for you.

SQ -I feel your pain. My ex took my daughter half way round the world - haven't had a good relationhip with her since. Good luck. But you need to get to grips with the situation and make sure you have the proper legal representation at court - this is your family, take control.

Sarge, sorry to hear your health problems - get well soon, the world needs correctional professionals.

sgt.null wrote:just found my friends uncle was murdered this morning. just got the text seconds ago.

knew the uncle had died but the circumstance. will have more later.

That's sad.

Cagliostro wrote:Well, I've been to the surgeon for the lump, and just need to have it taken out and analyzed. Unfortunately, there is someone else where I work that is working on getting a surgery scheduled that is much more critical, so I need to wait for her to be finished so I can schedule mine, dammit.

I had some blood work done yesterday. Just waiting nervously for the results. Fingers crossed.

Sending good thoughts your way, Cag!

I am sorry everyone is having such a difficult time. I wish you all better times.

And a question - did anyone ever do the online dating thing? Did it work for you?

My son does it, I guess. But I doubt he went through a dating site; he just met a girl online. I'm too chicken to try it, but Lord Zombiac met his fiance online, so you should ask him.

lorin wrote:And a question - did anyone ever do the online dating thing? Did it work for you?

I have done it several times. My current boyfriend I met online (however not through an actual "dating" site.)

Despite the fact that they didn't (obviously) turn into lasting relationships, I haven't had any "bad" experiences with it. My dates have included, but are not limited to: a very cool musician who is still a close friend, another artist who I broke up with but would have been a cool dude for a gal who can deal with the artsy type, an officer in the Navy who was actually very fun and had lots of potential (however I'm not willing to wait for someone who gets deployed), a biologist who showed me some awesome hiking spots on Hawaii and a dj who I had an amazing New Year's with and could still be dating if it weren't for the fact that I met him just a couple weeks before I moved to Hawaii. That's only a tiny portion of the people I've dated. They were all good people, and despite the fact that they didn't turn into lasting relationships I don't regret any experience I've had. I REALLY recommend online dating, with a few caveats:

You need to have enough social awareness to screen profiles for crazies. This goes for men and women alike. There are red flags in profiles that immediately turn me away. Sometimes it's the way the person talks about themselves or others, sometimes it's their interests... it really depends on the person. You need to be discerning. I've only gotten into a relationship with one crazy and that was because I broke my cardinal rule of not committing to a relationship until I knew them better. I consider the minimal drama of that situation to be my fault; emotional people can't help who they are.

Pictures ARE important. Not necessarily how a person looks, but the type of image they want you to see says a lot about them. Someone who has a lot of self portraits is going to be a different type of person than someone who has pictures of themselves doing activities. I think this may go for women more than men, but I tend to look negatively upon people who only have pictures of themselves taken in their bathroom mirror or with weird angles.

There are people who are looking for sex, not dating. Get to know the difference in the types of profiles. I don't think there's anything wrong with just wanting to hook up, but know what your goal is and make the other person aware of that goal.

Screen the potential date on the phone, multiple times, before any face to face contact. The best thing about online dating is the fact that unlike a random chance meeting, you actually know that you have (or don't?) things in common with the person you're meeting up. Take advantage of that and get to know the person a bit before you actually see them. And don't think that it's a big deal if you decide that you don't actually want to meet them (or they you). There are a lot of people out there, and not everyone is meant for everyone.

Similarly, don't get too emotionally invested before multiple dates. A lot of the time you (or the other person) may go on a few dates and then just decide it isn't really doin it for them. It's not a big deal and nothing to take personally.

Online dating can be a lot of fun if you're smart about it. I consider myself an online dating veteran, and my mother also met her husband on match.com. I'm all about dispensing advice and I really wish you luck. I think the internet is the greatest thing to happen to the dating scene since champagne.

Edit:
I used okcupid.com. I don't know your age, but that site is a little more casual and geared to a younger audience. They have some great statistical online dating information, though, if you want to check out their blog. It's info that can be used whether you use their service or not. If you're a little more serious I'd check out match.com. I wouldn't recommend eharmony, but that's only because I disagree with their practice of not matching atheists to other atheists because they're a christian based site (although I don't think anything in their disclaimers will tell you that.)

Waddley Gaga wrote:My dates have included, but are not limited to: a very cool musician who is still a close friend, another artist who I broke up with but would have been a cool dude for a gal who can deal with the artsy type

I'm an 'artsy' type. Trust me, we're not easy to deal with: artsy type

Fist met Raen (his wife) via an online dating site.

Nor is that the only significant pairing resulting from an online meeting!

(Me? Well, Dam-sel and I met in person at NASA in 1984...but surely we -- and many others -- have met other significant figures in our lifes both online and elsewhere in the decades since. 'Nuff said.)

I took an online compatibility test. I put in all my personality traits, and the computer generated the name of my perfect match:

Spoiler

Linden Avery

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well they have arrested two men already.

and a third has not been charged as of yet.

every day i go to we work , we drive by that house.