I tend to go with exceptional for two reasons:
For every solar system-sized cube of the universe one in a million has matter. The rest is just empty space (dark matter). It's even more exceptional to have a life-supporting planet; more so to have microbial life and unbelievable to have knowledge-creating, reasoning beings such as ourselves with advanced civilizations.
So to me science itself (or a glance at the universe's composition) shows we're out of the ordinary.
Secondly: We're so exceptional that we are limitless, thanks to our use of explanatory knowledge. And it is only limited by physics. There are countless things in the universe we can do and probably don't know yet, only due to a lack of knowledge at this time. We might be able to convert tonnes of hydrogen one day into a space station and mine stars for energy. I don't believe there are "higher beings" thinking on some higher level of reality and we're disabled compared to them. That's like asking me to believe in magic. What I see is that with the proper computers we can quantitatively perform infinitely as well, and if they know something we don't they can explain it to us and we'll know.
A lot of this is stuff I'm admittedly scraping from a fantastic book by David Deutsch, called The Beginning of Infinity.
My favorite quote so far:
We all know it’s a jungle out there but from the glass tower of civilization we don't really know (unless you got buried under snow in a car accident or saw that bear you weren't hoping to see). Instead we (me included) write poetry praising nature, when in reality its killed untold numbers of people, especially in our primeval years in places such as the Great Rift Valley in Africa or jolly old cold Europe.So the biosphere is incapable of supporting human life. From the outset it was only human knowledge that made the planet even marginally habitable by humans, and the enormously increased capacity of our life-support system since then (in terms both of numbers and of security and quality of life) has been entirely due to the creation of human knowledge. To the extent that we are on a ‘spaceship,’ we have never been merely its passengers, nor (as is often said) its stewards, nor even its maintenance crew: we are its designers and builders. Before the designs created by humans, it was not a vehicle, but only a heap of dangerous raw materials.
So anyway. Screw nature, screw the universe; we are awesome.
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