omg yer so handy. you should go on survivor balon!
a lot of what i learned in 2011 was internal...stuff about myself
and i learned those things through interaction with others. a lot of
that stuff is sorta personal but i'll share one of the things i learned
recently.
i had, for many many years, had some incorrect information about
my maternal grandmother and my uncle (her son, my mother's brother.)
and partly because of that and because i guess i needed someone to
blame, i have been blaming my grandmother for the course which my
mother's life had taken and some of the bad things that had happened
to her.
i recently spoke with my mother about it and she disabused me of my
erroneous notions, corrected the wrong information i had, and spoke of
her mother to me, telling me how much she loved her mother and how
good her mother had been to her and why my mother was raised the way
she was and the motivations and intentions behind many of my grandmother's actions.
she impressed upon me very convincingly how much my grandmother
loved her...and me, and how much my grandmother had done for us
over the years.
it was easy for me to lay much of the blame of the bad things that had
occurred in my mother's life at my grandmother's feet. like i said, i think
i just needed someone to blame and took it out on Ma Searcy because she
wasn't around and i could. much easier than owning up to the fact that my
mother made her own choices.
in the process of having this conversation with my mother, i learned what a
truely wonderful person my mother is. she has never had a bad word to say
about ANYone who hurt her. she never trash talks anyone (altho i think she
is convinced my sister in law doesn't like her, which, i have tried to tell her is
not true!)
she is a generous, loving, forgiving woman and from what she has been through in her life, it's simply amazing to me that she is the person she is.
for that, i would give much credit to HER mother.
so, i learned about 2 of the most important women in my life this year and
it has helped me tremendously.
in 2012 i hope to continue to grow and learn, about myself, about what i may be capable of, and myriad other things.
also i'd like to learn how to do the argentine tango.
nice thread balon!
