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If you have even been through a divorce, I think you know why this probably never occurs. It's a long, draining process with a lot of pain all over the place, and to celebrate it would take certain level of people, or at least a mutual feeling on both sides. You honestly just want it the hell over with and for the hurt to end.
Come to think of it, my first wife and I did have a little personal ceremony upon our divorce, though. We buried the bride and groom from our wedding cake in a field, and it was treated like a funeral. And it was just us. I can't imagine having anybody else there to assist in making it feel worse. It was actually a nice moment, and the last nice moment we had together.
Come to think of it, my first wife and I did have a little personal ceremony upon our divorce, though. We buried the bride and groom from our wedding cake in a field, and it was treated like a funeral. And it was just us. I can't imagine having anybody else there to assist in making it feel worse. It was actually a nice moment, and the last nice moment we had together.
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I have been through a divorce. It was indeed quick though there were lasting emotional effects for a long time after. On the other hand it was more than 2 decades ago so I've had plenty of time to feel like I can laugh about it now. I realize it would be extremely unlikely that any two people going through a divorce would actually agree to participate in the scenario I described.Cagliostro wrote:If you have even been through a divorce, I think you know why this probably never occurs. It's a long, draining process with a lot of pain all over the place, and to celebrate it would take certain level of people, or at least a mutual feeling on both sides. You honestly just want it the hell over with and for the hurt to end.
Come to think of it, my first wife and I did have a little personal ceremony upon our divorce, though. We buried the bride and groom from our wedding cake in a field, and it was treated like a funeral. And it was just us. I can't imagine having anybody else there to assist in making it feel worse. It was actually a nice moment, and the last nice moment we had together.
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Wow, mine was about 2 decades ago as well. Wait.....Cindy?aTOMiC wrote: I have been through a divorce. It was indeed quick though there were lasting emotional effects for a long time after. On the other hand it was more than 2 decades ago so I've had plenty of time to feel like I can laugh about it now.
Mine sucked pretty hard and is still one of the few things I can't quite laugh over yet. As far as divorces go, it was an especially easy one from what I have witnessed. Both of us had our own cars, most nothing we co-owned, and had no kids. We did have a ferret, and it made me extra sad saying goodbye to the fuzzy snake.
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HAH!Cagliostro wrote: Wow, mine was about 2 decades ago as well. Wait.....Cindy?
I don't know. Its probably that I've spent all of the intervening time happily married with a kid and so on that that previous relationship feels like it happened to someone else, I can't identify with it emotionally any longer. I have more emotional pain from watching the Tampa Bay Buccaneers play football like crap. Or maybe that hurts more because its FRESH!
But I digress...
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Really, TOM? It's bad enough seeing the guy for the ten minutes it takes for the judge to declare the marriage dissolved. You want to add a party, too? ![Shocked 8O](./images/smilies/icon_eek.gif)
My divorce wasn't terribly messy until the ex tried to kill himself. (True story.) So yeah -- no party.
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Cagliostro wrote:Way to go Tom. This thread should be retitled (or subtitled) "How bad was your divorce?" Way to pick at old scabs.
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Yeah I'm beginning to see that.
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What I thought was an amusing notion that reminded me of a bad, over the top, Rom Com premise doesn't seem so funny on second thought. Maybe Hollywood likes to pick at scabs but I generally don't.
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Nor have I gone through a divorce...but I clearly understood both the humor and the pathos of Tom's original post. Let's just say I've been agile in avoiding those adverse outcomes; sometimes by tightrope-walking, often by contortionism, and occasionally by sheer grace.
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Savor Dam wrote:Nor have I gone through a divorce...but I clearly understood both the humor and the pathos of Tom's original post. Let's just say I've been agile in avoiding those adverse outcomes; sometimes by tightrope-walking, often by contortionism, and occasionally by sheer grace.
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Satire is somewhat about showing just how ridiculous we humans are, I think.
And it's often about the question, "what if we wore on the outside all those sentiments we keep buried deep in our hearts?"
So, CATHARSIS.
I think this is kind of genius, Tom.
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And it's often about the question, "what if we wore on the outside all those sentiments we keep buried deep in our hearts?"
So, CATHARSIS.
I think this is kind of genius, Tom.
poignant if awkward story, cags. thanks for putting it out there. there's something in there that's condign.cags wrote:We buried the bride and groom from our wedding cake in a field, and it was treated like a funeral. And it was just us. I can't imagine having anybody else there to assist in making it feel worse. It was actually a nice moment, and the last nice moment we had together.
ali wrote:My divorce wasn't terribly messy until the ex tried to kill himself. (True story.)
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Sorry, I didn't mean to say it wasn't funny. It definitely was. But I think I tried imagining how that would go in reality, and ended up sucking the funny out of the thread. My apologies Tom.
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Sorry to hear about your marriage dissolving, Doc. Hope the mediation went relatively smoothly/amicably.
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Linna: Thanks for the hug.
It's not a thing I dwell on, fortunately. It's been 20 years, for one thing, and all sorts of other crazy-making stuff has happened since then. ![Shocked 8O](./images/smilies/icon_eek.gif)
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Sorry about your recent split, Doc. Hope things even out for you.
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My sister who is generally not noted for being wise said something wise when it came to divorce: "It takes about a year to truly feel like yourself again." Since I've been an adult and have been through a divorce and a breakup that felt like a divorce, a year seemed about right before I pulled myself out it. I hope your results are less than that.
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