lurch wrote:.
...So,,waiting around for the rite person,,sorry that ain't male. Get out there and find the rite person. Broken hearts may follow and don't follow the prejudice that only woman get their hearts broken. It can happen to you.Like anytrhing else in life , sex is what you make it.
.. Be honest and careful but " Be". Acknowledge your naturalness, be all the beast you can be and worry about refinement when your partner civilizes you. But get started for goodness sakes. Time waits for no one....MEL
Two things in this post scare me.
Seriously.
One is "That ain't male" [to wait around for the right person].
The second is "be all the beast you can be and worry about refinement when your partner civilizes you."
Perhaps you didn't mean it this way, but it sounds like you are encouraging young men to be like animals going out to blindly savage any vagina they come across. The implied message is--it's up to the FEMALE to protect herself, both her physical body and her heart. Do what you gotta do. Say what you gotta say, but just get out there, young man, and get into somebody's pants.
Be an animal rampaging freely throughout the female population until some woman is able to grab you by the gonads and train you to behave like a civilized human being.
The reason this scares me is that it encourages men to view women as "objects" to be collected or "prey" to stalk and conquer.
It makes it sound like the woman is the guardian at the gates to paradise, and it is the man's job to batter down those gates and get those golden apples. Or perhaps cherries in this case.
I seriously feel sick to my stomach after reading that.
It goes back to my comment about treating women like a temporary penis storage device.
It really isn't the woman's job to civilize the man. It is the man's (and the woman's) responsibility to BE CIVILIZED.
If you think the advice and perspective of the opposite sex just adds to the fear factor of the uninitiated male--just imagine what THIS advice has done to the uninitiated FEMALE!!
EW.
Mel, you don't seem like an ignorant lout in the posts you make (despite your horrific spelling
), so I am going to assume that you did NOT mean it in this way.
Indescriminate sexual hijinx will do a lot more than break the heart of either sex. It is empty and shallow and will leave the lonely man (or woman) feeling even more empty and alone than before. And that doesn't even touch the subjects of unplanned pregnancy and STDs.
If we are going with the beast image, the male animal generally impregnates as many females as it can, then takes off to leave the nurturing and raising of the cubs to the woman. Are you going to advise this too, in instructing the young in how to become sexually active?
Eek.
Nothing but love for you, Mel, but, as an uninitiated female, this advice leaves me cold and horrified.
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