I'm sorry, ali. I lost my dad to cancer last month, so I know what you're going through. It's a tough road. My dad never went to a hospital at the end or anything. My stepmom had hospice come by every week. I'm 100% positive it was the best thing for him. Anyway, if you ever need someone to talk about it with, you can always PM me.aliantha wrote: So...got a phone call from my brother tonight. My mom's in the hospital again -- congestive heart failure. The bro says she hasn't been eating and has been skipping her meds, and her legs basically swelled up due to water retention. The last couple of times this happened, a cancer diagnosis followed swiftly thereafter. Mom turned 93 last week, so the odds that they would do surgery this time are kind of crappy. (Plus, every time she gets anesthesia, she slides a little further into dementia -- so I'm not sure I want her under the knife again, in any case.)
Anyway, the bro says she'll probably be in the hospital through the weekend, and then she'll go into a care facility, and then we'll see. Chances are really good that she won't be going back to the ol' homestead -- she needs to live with somebody (to make sure she eats and takes her pills). And there's no way she'd put up with a live-in aide; she barely lets the visiting nurses in the door. She may end up living here with me yet....
Anyway, thanks for listening.
Snow ruined my plans for today, so I haven't been in a good mood.