Why do we marry the people we do?

Post by **Damelon** » Tue Apr 10, 2012 1:07 pm

lucimay wrote:it's sorta like i never even posted, huh. why did i bother?

I read it, but what is wrong with Foreigner/Night Ranger/Journey?

Post by **deer of the dawn** » Tue Apr 10, 2012 6:08 pm

Post by **aliantha** » Tue Apr 10, 2012 6:37 pm

Cagliostro wrote:
aliantha wrote:What I should have done, tho, is listened to the voice in my head that hemmed and hawed and had to be talked into accepting his proposal. I wish I'd known him longer before we got engaged. (We met in August or September, he proposed at Thanksgiving, and we moved in together in mid-December.
But you'd never know if you didn't go for it, n'est-ce pas? You have to make mistakes in life to know whether or not it is something you want. Few mistakes can't be undone, and you tough through the ones that you can't change. But living a life of inaction is hardly a life. You have to take chances to get the better rewards. At least that is my thinking, especially when it comes to love.

There's two stories of life
That contain all the facts
One's told to your face
The other's told to your back
Which one to believe
Well, that's all up to you
Also to decide which one will come true

Is it the one where love
Is the pounding of a drum
A lone soldier on a hill
An army of one?
Is it the one where love
Is a peace between two
A harmony?

Thanks, Cags.

Damelon wrote:what is wrong with Foreigner/Night Ranger/Journey?

Lemme know when you have that conversation with her IRL, so I can be far away.

(She doesn't have much use for Styx, either...)

Post by **Cagliostro** » Tue Apr 10, 2012 7:49 pm

Oh, and what I left out of the original post is that at least you got two wonderful children that really care for you out of it, so there.

Post by **DoctorGamgee** » Tue Apr 10, 2012 7:53 pm

sgt.null wrote:and that was our honeymoon.

Sounds like a lot of fun!

Post by **sgt.null** » Wed Apr 11, 2012 12:15 pm

DoctorGamgee wrote:
sgt.null wrote:and that was our honeymoon.
Sounds like a lot of fun!

right behind our trip to the last Elohim Fest. we stopped to see the Alamo, Carlsbad Caverns and Roswell before ending up meeting everyone and having a blast in Albuquerque.

Post by **Cameraman Jenn** » Wed Apr 11, 2012 1:30 pm

I question Lucimay's utter hatred of Journey, after all, weren't there like 9 witnesses that morning at brunch when she spontaneously broke out into singing a Journey song? Aliantha and Damelon both were there...

Post by **deer of the dawn** » Wed Apr 11, 2012 4:02 pm

I actually used to despise Journey. Then my husband said quietly one day (Don't Stop Believin' was playing on the car radio) "I love this song. I know it's corny but I always loved it." I took another listen and it's actually a really good song.

But my "goodpost" smiley was actually meant for Cag's post.

I don't care for Foreigner or Night Ranger. Styx, on the other hand...

Website · Post by **Iolanthe** » Wed Apr 11, 2012 4:13 pm

Damelon wrote:I read it, but what is wrong with Foreigner/Night Ranger/Journey?

Oh

they are groups! Never heard of any of them. Wondered what you were all talking about

Post by **aliantha** » Wed Apr 11, 2012 5:26 pm

Cameraman Jenn wrote:I question Lucimay's utter hatred of Journey, after all, weren't there like 9 witnesses that morning at brunch when she spontaneously broke out into singing a Journey song? Aliantha and Damelon both were there...

Ssssshhh, Jenn! She swore us to secrecy, remember?

Wasn't there something else we were sworn to secrecy about? Something about a duet involving danlo...? (I am *so* dead...)

Cagliostro wrote:Oh, and what I left out of the original post is that at least you got two wonderful children that really care for you out of it, so there.

I did indeed.

Post by **Cameraman Jenn** » Thu Apr 12, 2012 1:02 am

OH! Were we sworn to secrecy? I must have forgotten that part...

Guess she's gonna have to find time to hang out with me in order to punch me as punishment and she better punch me in the eye and not the mouth, new teeth and all....

Post by **Savor Dam** » Thu Apr 12, 2012 1:51 am

New teeth are easier to come by than new eyes...

Post by **deer of the dawn** » Mon Apr 16, 2012 10:29 am

The "Fetch Me A Pic" game reminded me of a man I had a long and torrid love affair with, an extremely talented musician; we literally made beautiful music together. But we were NOT right for each other. We were crazy for each other and made each other mad for seven years.

We are still friends in the sense that we communicate every couple of years just to catch up. He still takes my breath away. But I haven't seen him in 25 years. He just finally married someone and I am very happy for him. I married a couple of years after ending things with him and am very happy I did. But it's just funny that he and I were so passionate and understood almost too much about each other and I think if we had married it would have been excruciating.

Post by **Ananda** » Mon Apr 16, 2012 2:36 pm

That's interesting, Deer. I had a similar, very intense, very bad relationship like that. I wrote a whole post about it in response, but then decided to delete it. Too much personal information on the internets! Just to say, though, I can totally relate. And, I checked up on how he was doing a couple years back and found that he got married and treated his wife exactly how I assumed it would go if I stayed. That poor woman.

Post by **sgt.null** » Mon Apr 16, 2012 7:11 pm

i am lucky - i married once, to the love of my life.

Post by **sgt.null** » Mon Apr 16, 2012 10:34 pm

Cameraman Jenn wrote:I question Lucimay's utter hatred of Journey, after all, weren't there like 9 witnesses that morning at brunch when she spontaneously broke out into singing a Journey song? Aliantha and Damelon both were there...

can lucimay deny the sheer awesome power of this video???

Words Fail To Describe How Great This Video IS

Post by **deer of the dawn** » Tue Apr 17, 2012 7:05 am

sgt.null wrote:i am lucky - i married once, to the love of my life.

Kudos, null.

Post by **sgt.null** » Tue Apr 17, 2012 7:27 am

deer of the dawn wrote:
sgt.null wrote:i am lucky - i married once, to the love of my life.
Kudos, null.

thank you - our 18th year - april 22nd.

Post by **StevieG** » Thu Apr 19, 2012 1:28 pm

Congrats Null!

Why do we marry the people we do? That's a great question!

I feel lucky - and I think my wife is lucky too.

She helped me out of an insecure crappy place, and I helped her out of a conservative, judgemental place.

I'm into sport, she's not. I'm into music, she is to a degree, but nothing much that I like and vice versa.

We both work bloody hard. We both compromise a lot which really seems to be the key to the success of our relationship.

In December this year, we'll have been together 20 years, and married 14. May it continue!

Post by **sgt.null** » Thu Apr 19, 2012 3:18 pm

congrat sahead of time stevie! have no idea what we are doing for our anniversary Sunday.

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Why do we marry the people we do?