How Do You Feel Today? v4

[Savor Dam]

Fine, let it be a cider rabbit.

[Menolly]

Rabbit!
Rabbit!!
Rabbit!!!


Blessed Beltane!
Happy May Day!

[aTOMiC]

Feeling good. I'm taking off the next two days for Star Wars day Eve and Star Wars Day. I plan to eat unhealthy crap and go on a journey to a long time ago and a galaxy far far away.

[Menolly]

[Menolly]

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Well, at least it's Friday. Been a bit disconnected lately for no particular reason. Far too much gaming and not much of anything else.

All relatively well though, so no complaints...

--A

[SoulBiter]

Here in Ohio, its like mother nature knows that it was Mothers day. The day after it finally will be sunny and warm as we head into Spring/Summer. I on the other hand finally transitioned to shorts and tank tops again as it will be 80 degrees F. (26 Celsius for those on that system)

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I generally consider 26C as just a bit better than mild. Winter is kicking into gear here, so temps are starting to drop below the 20's (C).

I hate winter, more for the early sunsets and late sunrises than anything else, although as I've mentioned, my flat is damn cold in winter. :brrrr:

--A

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Uh, think I've developed an abscess...emergency dentist appointment in a few hours...

--A

[Menolly]

Ouch!

[Khaliban]

Uh, think I've developed an abscess...emergency dentist appointment in a few hours...

--A

I had that in March. With the novocaine, the actually pulling didn't hurt. It's the special diet after that really sucked. Cold, soft food for 4 days. I like ice cream, yogurt, and smoothies, but you get sick of them fast. The trick is baby food and hard boiled eggs. They are your only savory options. The eggs, with a little soy sauce, will save your sanity.

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LOL

Luckily it's not (yet) resulting in an extraction. I've already lost 1 molar to periodontitis and the resultant bone loss.

One of these days this one will be next, but for now, just a few doses of my course of antibiotics (and some heavy duty painkillers) have sorted it out. (Yes, I will finish the course regardless.)

Now if I could just manage to stop smoking...

--A

[Fist and Faith]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VmW-ScmGRMA

[SoulBiter]

LOL



Now if I could just manage to stop smoking...

--A

I quit smoking 24 (ish) years ago at 35 years old. I had tried a number of times and even was briefly successful for a year. My issue was that I really enjoyed smoking and always thought that I could be a "social smoker" where I would not smoke for months and enjoy one here and there. But after a year of not smoking, I was in a social situation and thought I would have a couple of cigs with some work friends. We were all on a week long work trip in Utah. I left there a pack a day man and it took me 3 months to get the motivation to try again.

What I found was that I have to treat smoking like a crack addict treats crack. Once I quit for a few months after that, I steeled myself to the fact that I can NEVER smoke again for any reason.

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Yeah, I haven't even got that far. I'm back down to about 10 / 12 a day (mostly on the advice of my periodontist) after backsliding to around 30 a day at the height of the lockdowns.

But until that reduction (about 9 months ago) I've basically smoked at least a pack a day for the last 30 years. None of that social nonsense. Proper addiction.

--A

[SoulBiter]

Well for those that know me, they know I moved to Ohio to help out with my Father in law who was at the time in his late 80's and now is 93. We live about 5 mins away and have worked to try to keep him in his house. We had been successful to a point but now he has these breaks from reality that are making it more dangerous for him to be home. Example: he called 911 because no one picked him up to bring him home. He called from his house of the last 75 years. When we were talking to him about it after the cops left, he said "its uncanny how much that other home looks just like my house".

He is also 100% convinced he is going to win millions through the mail. He sends all this stuff off and crams money into them. (we catch a lot of it and just deposit it back into his account). Even when we show him on the mail that he got that it always has some fine print that says "if your name is selected...."

But yeah the last straw was he got past the cameras we installed and ended up walking down the street... he can barely walk with his walker and has trouble navigating any doorway because he struggles picking his feet up). well he got to a point where he was too tired to go on and fell down. Lucky a neighbor was out walking the dog and saw (not someone we knew) and helped him get on his feet and back to his house.

So all that being said, we are moving him into assisted living. He doesn't like it one bit but its time... well probably past time.

[Fist and Faith]

Sorry to hear all that. My father will be 86 on June 30. He still walks 1.5 miles into the village on many nice days. Independence is so important. Sad to see your FIL has to lose a big chunk of it. Obviously, it's the right move.

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Ah, sorry to hear it SB, it's a difficult thing, but yes, sounds like it will be for the best.

--A

[Skyweir]

Aww that’s got to be heartbreaking for you and your wife SB but as hard a decision that absolutely is ~ there comes a time when they need more than you can provide.

My husbands mother was simply beautiful ~ we just adored her but living interstate we couldn’t be there when her alzheimers kicked in (which it did after my fil passed). She totally lost it ~ and went to live with my SIL ~ but cuz she worked it soon became apparent that she couldn’t be left alone.

She went into a “nursing home/assisted living equivalent� and thankfully her alzheimers was a blessing cuz she thought she worked there and took it upon herself to look after “the girls� lol 😂

Life is short ~ I want to live every day I have to its full but I know if a time comes I cannot do for myself, I know my kids will do right by me.

Fingers crossed that day never comes. I’d really like to die at home ~ but not if I’m a threat to myself or others.

[SoulBiter]

Thanks all. We were able to find a really nice place close by that is more "apartment like" for his assisted living. We took him to visit there and he seems more OK with it. I think he had in his head an idea of something more "hospital or nursing home". Since he is a Korean War vet, the VA will pay for most of it.

My wife and I have discussed some of this for ourselves when we get that age. The issue is you might not know or agree that its time, even when its past time. You think you will always be able to take care of each other but you have to consider "losing one or the other" at some point and even if that isn't the case, you might not be capable of taking care of your other when it gets that bad.

A friend of mine that I worked with for years had it right. Well actually her mother did. Her mother set up a meeting with her and handed her some papers and such and had it all worked out. She said, when its time, here is where I want to go, here are the papers, I have my copies of my personal records in a lock-box and another is stored at this legal office. She had just about everything you can think of already decided and pre-arranged.