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Post by **CovenantJr** » Tue Nov 03, 2009 3:00 pm

That sounds like a horrible situation, Michael. Attacks like that are completely uncalled for.

Post by **Cagliostro** » Tue Nov 03, 2009 3:48 pm

That sucks Lore. Hell, I went through the same thing a few years ago, but wasn't given a definite like you are apparently getting now.

You have to realize that even though she is the one breaking up with you, that she is in pain too, and is feeling the sense of loss as well. These stupid outbursts happen as a result. My ex made the same sort of comments, and was oblivious to the damage they caused me until a few years later. She has since apologized for most of them, saying that several weren't true. It doesn't exactly make it ok, but at least understanding it makes it a bit better. Try not to take too much of it to heart, like I did. She's trying to kick you out of her heart as well, and when reality doesn't suffice, sometimes inventions do.

Breakups suck, and as much as it is almost always one-sided, it is easy to forget while you are the one hurt that the other party is hurting as well, even if they have someone there to "make it all better."

Now comes the long unhappy uphill climb of getting over her. Good luck to you.

P.S. Also keep in mind that there are two people in relationships, and when things go wrong, it is typically due to both parties, and not just you.

Post by **Avatar** » Tue Nov 03, 2009 4:07 pm

Sorry to hear that Lore. Hope things work out for the best.

--A

Post by **aliantha** » Tue Nov 03, 2009 5:45 pm

Lore:

I know it doesn't help right now, but she sounds kind of immature to me. Anyway, I'm sorry.

Post by **balon!** » Tue Nov 03, 2009 6:31 pm

Damn Lore, I'm sorry man.
Some people who are pained don't communicate it for one reason or another.
I guess it's easier to just cut the relationship than deal with it.
I'm sorry if you got caught in something like that, it's a terrible position to be in.
But it'll get better in time. Understanding will come too. At least for yourself, and your own actions in the equation.
Much love, man.

Post by **Worm of Despite** » Wed Nov 04, 2009 5:26 am

Came back from a trip to Atlanta to find my grandmother in the hospital with a broken hip. Waited a few hours for her to come out of surgery, to which she was high on the anesthetics and and accusing us of "leaving her to die". She does look thin and is quite nervous and terrified...it's awful. I'm convinced she'll recover, though...

She's also pretty much my mother, so it's been a rough day.

YouTube · Post by **Menolly** » Wed Nov 04, 2009 11:37 am

Here's hoping recovery goes smoothly for her, David.

Post by **Kaydene** » Wed Nov 04, 2009 4:06 pm

It's my birthday. It's kind of sucked so far. I'm still waiting on the deal with this new car to go through so I can't drive myself to go have breakfast out or something. I think I'm done aging. 26 is good enough. Where's the goddamn pause button? I read a birthday poem I wrote to myself 4 or 5 years ago and I think I was smarter then.

Post by **aliantha** » Wed Nov 04, 2009 4:10 pm

Happy birthday, Kaydene!

LF: Best wishes for a speedy recovery for your grandma.

Post by **Avatar** » Wed Nov 04, 2009 4:51 pm

Happy Birthday Kaydene. There is no pause button. And the fast foward is automatic.

Sorry to hear that LF. Hope things go well.

--A

Post by **Worm of Despite** » Wed Nov 04, 2009 9:16 pm

Yeah. She's much better now, just she worries a lot and the medication did stuff to her for a few long hours until she came out of it. She's currently recovering and, barring anything out of the norm, should be walking again fine and back home...

Post by **aliantha** » Wed Nov 04, 2009 10:19 pm

Good news, LF!

Post by **Loredoctor** » Thu Nov 05, 2009 9:03 am

Thanks heaps to everyone who offered support. I just ended the friendship, which has hurt me deeply. I'll be okay, but I will miss her for a long time.
Thanks again.

YouTube · Post by **Menolly** » Thu Nov 05, 2009 1:20 pm

I know it doesn't help, but...

...anyway, Lore.

Post by **Cagliostro** » Thu Nov 05, 2009 2:20 pm

Loremaster wrote:Thanks heaps to everyone who offered support. I just ended the friendship, which has hurt me deeply. I'll be okay, but I will miss her for a long time.
Thanks again.

My sister said this to me, and it was pretty wise from someone who often isn't. She said that it generally takes about a year to at least feel normal again. That seems about the correct timeline from the two major breakups in my life. My best wishes to you, sir.

Post by **Seareach** » Thu Nov 05, 2009 8:43 pm

To the tune of Monty Python's "spam": snot, snot, snot, snot, snot, snot, snot, snot ....etc

I'm tired of the snot! I want less snot NOW!

Lore, I feel for you. Relationship breakdowns are hard, especially if you lose the friendship as well. Let yourself grieve.

Post by **Cagliostro** » Fri Nov 06, 2009 3:13 pm

Seareach wrote: I'm tired of the snot! I want less snot NOW!

Box it up. One day SoS can sell it on eBay for a heap once you become famous.

Post by **Seareach** » Fri Nov 06, 2009 8:23 pm

Cagliostro wrote:
Seareach wrote: I'm tired of the snot! I want less snot NOW!
Box it up. One day SoS can sell it on eBay for a heap once you become famous.

...now that's a good idea!

I have woken up with a splitting headache today...due to too much snot expulsion yesterday I think. Bah.

Post by **stonemaybe** » Sat Nov 07, 2009 12:47 am

Kaydene: "Growing old is mandatory, growing up is optional"

Sea: antihistamine

Lore: You need distracted. Try Pantheon or something similar.

Post by **aliantha** » Sat Nov 07, 2009 2:24 am

I made a batch of no-bake chocolate cookies just now. I wonder how long it's supposed to take for them to harden. At the rate it's going, I'm not going to find out tonight... mmm...

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