How Do You Feel Today? v4

[Skyweir]

thanks for that Linna .. its great that you are opening your home .. its an arguably difficult thing to do .. well mostly because its takes quite an investment of energy and time, and some find sharing difficult.

And it can open your home and family to abuses too .. so you have to safeguard against that. We used to have a lady drop by very, very regularly .. shed stay for dinner, into the evening and if she was too tired to drive home, wed make her up a bed for the night. But one time she bailed Trev up in our bedroom, making him feel very uncomfortable and then blocked the door so he could not get passed her .. she literally pushed a crate in front of the door to stop him from leaving. But she always wanted his attention .. anyway I was preparing a meal and went looking for them to come eat .. and tried the bedroom door and found it wouldnt open. There was no lock on the door, so I knocked on the door .. and that enabled Trevs escape lol

So theres that ...

And this woman was a rather needy human .. and I think she suffered from manic depression .. as shed experience radical mood swings, but the big flag for us was when the kids wanted to be with us .. and she banged the table and yelled at them to leave as she was talking to us .. and .. we didnt feel ok with that.

But there were a lot of things we didnt feel ok with .. for the most part we still remained an open home .. that was good as the kids brought all their mates home .. which I was more at ease with. Oh the stories I could tell .. lol

We took in so many humans over the years .. it was a rare occasion that we dined alone .. as a family. That was good for the kids to be raised with on one level, but not good on another. After we moved to Canberra we had to slowly pull back our involvement in others lives, as my work became more demanding, particularly when I was travelling every week.

So its good and bad .. and perhaps its ok to exercise a little caution .. should you feel your family isnt coming first.

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Monday.

Meh.



--A

[Skyweir]

My Monday as been a bit meh ... been cleaning up after having the kids here for the week.

[Iolanthe]

Hi folks. Well, we're really sweltering in the heat here, in the 30s today and very humid. I'm staying indoors with the fan on and still sweating like a pig. This weather doesn't suit me at all. Sorry I've not been here lately. Too many other things to do. Must try to visit more often.

[deer of the dawn]

Nice to see you here, Iolanthe.

Though I'm always afraid one of my close friends will see my activity conversing with a mutual friend and think, "Hey, why isn't she paying attention to me?!?!"

I was wondering.... :LOLZ:

Actually I was realizing how bad I suck at being friends because I keep meaning to message you and find out how thingz...

For those of you who knew that Stag of the dawn was really sick (he had drug-resistant malaria which became pneumonia which became meningitis) and we had to come back to the States for a few weeks.... He has a clean bill of health now, and can once again walk so fast I have to run to keep up with him. We are going back to Jos in a few days. School starts in two weeks!!

The bad news is, I have a migraine. The good news is I went 99 days in between migraines. And, I have sumatriptan. We are in Virginia visiting Fawn of the dawn and Buck of the dawn for a couple days.

Going to go post about books I've read, and gleefully waste time on Mallory's!

[Iolanthe]

Thanks Deer Pleased to hear that Stag has recovered.

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Good news Deer. And nice to see you both around.

Io, you're right...you should be visiting more often.

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[Skyweir]

How did I know you were going to say that ..

Great to see you Io and Deer so glad to hear Stag of the Dawn has made a full recovery.

... races to Mallorys to play games with Deer

[Skyweir]

So my son was sick when he got here last week and they left and didnt take it with them .. so woke up pretty grodey today .. and have been in my pjs all day long.

No energy, so not feeling like I should be doing this or that .. cos I really dont think I could do this or that.

But got a call today from someone needing 250 acres looking after .. with cattle, sheep, goats, 10 pedigree dogs to care for .. and her 6 goats are all pregnant and expecting any time now. So thats gonna be fun I go out to meet her on Thursday. Cos no ones got pasture theyre feeding the cattle and sheep lucerne hay .. so will get to drive the tractor out to the sheep and cattle paddocks

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Sucks to work when you're sick though...especially physical work.

Ah well, have fun.

Me, same old same old.

--A

[Skyweir]

Hahaha ..

Well worked on the greenhouse today .. went out and got supplies for it .. we decided to change the wood in the posts. Personally super happy about it ..

Feel 100 per today .. though still a bit scratchy behind my eyes .. weird huh

Tomorrow heading out to get the lay of the land tomorrow.. its a good couple of hours away .. gonna be tricky logistically as we are one SUV down .. after hitting a roo .. Trev might have to drop me and pick me up .. kinda sucks to have to do a 4hr round trip You gotta do what ya gotta do though ..

[Linna Heartbooger]

And it can open your home and family to abuses too .. so you have to safeguard against that. We used to have a lady drop by very, very regularly .. shed stay for dinner, into the evening and if she was too tired to drive home, wed make her up a bed for the night. But one time she bailed Trev up in our bedroom, making him feel very uncomfortable and then blocked the door so he could not get passed her .. she literally pushed a crate in front of the door to stop him from leaving. But she always wanted his attention .. anyway I was preparing a meal and went looking for them to come eat .. and tried the bedroom door and found it wouldnt open. There was no lock on the door, so I knocked on the door .. and that enabled Trevs escape lol

So theres that ...

Oh, yeah. That's no good.

But there were a lot of things we didnt feel ok with .. for the most part we still remained an open home .. that was good as the kids brought all their mates home .. which I was more at ease with. Oh the stories I could tell .. lol

Oh, I bet you could!

Well, my family is still at the stage where "hospitality" looks like last Friday morning... inviting over two young people who were in our youth group a while back... (both college students now)
...and us four sitting around the table somewhat awkwardly having conversation for an hour or so, until I made strawberry smoothies and shoved one into the hands of each of our visitors.

I did not realize that my husband, in a sleep-deprived state that I knew he was in, would have been quite happy to have me take the lead in the conversation that day. Doh.
lolz.

its a good couple of hours away .. gonna be tricky logistically as we are one SUV down .. after hitting a roo .. Trev might have to drop me and pick me up .. kinda sucks to have to do a 4hr round trip

Ughhh... you're not kiddin'!

Anyway, right now I'm in an "up" kinda mood because a few things seem to be going quite well for me... conversations with friends and such.
But I'm not really feeling like getting ANYTHING done in terms of everyday tasks... D'oh.

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Oh well, at least the week is nearly over...been a very procrastinatory week for me...

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[Skyweir]

Friday .. and Im having a good one .. horse day so early start .. bit chilly .. but now the suns up .. its beautiful

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Friday indeed, thank gods for small mercies. Unfortunately, the beter half has a very busy weekend planned it look like, so seriously putting a crimp in my eternal plan to do nothing.

Oh well...

--A

[Skyweir]

So when you say your gf has a busy weekend .. you mean you by association share in all that business

Well that ... is as it is ... no? LOL

Good luck with that .. but you never know, you just might enjoy yourself .. remember the hiking adventure, you had a ball?

[Savor Dam]

Friday and an interview (only the second since December - I'm not exactly trying hard to return to the workforce) that took four hours. About two months ago, a former employer (a certain online retailer and cloud provider) approached me about coming back. Took this long to get the onsite interview to happen.

We'll see. I am unsure that this will be worth going back to a daily 90 minute (each way) commute...but maybe they won't make an offer and I can go back to the domestic life I've lived for the last seven months.

[Cord Hurn]

Friday and an interview (only the second since December - I'm not exactly trying hard to return to the workforce) that took four hours. About two months ago, a former employer (a certain online retailer and cloud provider) approached me about coming back. Took this long to get the onsite interview to happen.

We'll see. I am unsure that this will be worth going back to a daily 90 minute (each way) commute...but maybe they won't make an offer and I can go back to the domestic life I've lived for the last seven months.

No doubt it cannot be easy to agree to once again take up those long commutes. Here's hoping you will find you're happy with whatever decision you make, Savor Dam!

[Sorus]

A 4-hour interview sounds pretty serious, but I can certainly empathize with not wanting the commute.

[Skyweir]

As much as I love retirement.. I do miss the financial satisfaction of working full time for someone else but its quite a trade off .. and tbh Im not sure Id want the commute again .. its 90mins to the city for me too .. then theres parking to find.

But its always such a rush being head hunted and wanted back. Youre clearly very good at what you did ..

All the best with it .. and like Cordy I wish you well with your decision