How Do You Feel Today? v4

Post by **samrw3** » Fri Jan 26, 2018 5:59 pm

Thanks Tom

Post by **Skyweir** » Sat Jan 27, 2018 12:11 am

Nice av Sam

Hahahaha TOM ...

.. the joys of pasta

Post by **Skyweir** » Sat Jan 27, 2018 12:14 am

Currently procrastinating.. lol

So much to do today .. cleaning and washing top on the list. But we started packing up our Xmas decorations

.. and I have to wade through that nightmare before I can even start cleaning

Hence my presence here

Post by **Skyweir** » Sat Jan 27, 2018 5:46 am

Ok did my chores, washing, vacuuming, mopping, dusting, everythings done .. got the girls today .. all is well with the world .. well at least the one I inhabit lol

Post by **samrw3** » Sat Jan 27, 2018 11:55 am

Thanks Skyweir and congrats on getting chores done

Post by **Skyweir** » Sun Jan 28, 2018 12:36 am

cheers Sam

Today more storms

Got the goats out, going to have to wire my tree trunks as they're stripping bark. I was kinda hoping these goats weren't interested in bark stripping ..

but alas that was misplaced hopefulness LOL

If its not fencing its wiring trees and shrubs

lol

Post by **Avatar** » Mon Jan 29, 2018 4:47 am

Skyweir wrote:.. how awful to be in hospital. I hate hospitals, the smell, the wards ...

Yeah, the old girl isn't doing that well...ICU on a respirator right now. I'd say it's a matter of time, but then, it's always a matter of time.

Otherwise...Monday...Meh...

--A

Post by **Sorus** » Tue Jan 30, 2018 3:12 am

Sorry, Av.

Post by **Skyweir** » Tue Jan 30, 2018 3:48 am

oh thats no good Av .. so sorry to hear she's taken a turn for the worse.

Your gf must be so very worried.

Post by **Avatar** » Tue Jan 30, 2018 4:34 am

Ah, it happens to us all, right?

Honestly we've been expecting it for some time, so not exactly a shock or anything. Just hoping it's quick and peaceful, and preferably in hospital.

If she recovers and gets sent back home, it's just going to happen again in a few months.

--A

Post by **Skyweir** » Wed Jan 31, 2018 6:46 am

Its always sad and never easy .. no matter how much you expect it .. love to you and your girlfriend and your gran

Post by **samrw3** » Wed Jan 31, 2018 2:24 pm

That is difficult Avatar. Then the constant back and forth and waiting. I cannot think of anything really to be helpful or comforting. All I can think is I know me at these times it can be human nature to withdraw and insular. If that is your nature at all I hope you reach out to loved ones, friends and relatives, religion, community or whatever support systems are helpful to you. If you are already doing that bravo to you.

Post by **Avatar** » Thu Feb 01, 2018 4:15 am

Skyweir wrote:...love to you and your girlfriend and your gran

Her gran.

Thanks guys. Actually she seems to be improving, off the respirator now, but as I mentioned before, it's a mixed blessing.

It's really not that bad you know guys. If we're not at peace with the idea that everybody dies by now, well, that's our failing as far as I'm concerned.

Our problem with the death of other people is usually (almost always) a selfish one. What we mourn is the gap they leave in our lives. Once you're dead, you have no more problems. Only the people left behind suffer your absence.

--A

Post by **Skyweir** » Thu Feb 01, 2018 7:07 am

Well its kinda your gran too

mmm... thats very true, everything you say .. but its ok I think and healthy to mourn the loss of someone. People are a big part of other peoples lives.

Its hard to be without some people, and yes it is probably selfish .. but I think its ok to be selfish sometimes.

I've grieved the loss of people I've never physically met - you may have too. We bump into people in various places, some you connect with, some in a rather big way, others you dont.

You are human at the end of the lolday Av ..

And its ok I think to mourn with and for others. A friend of mine recently passed, I didn't know her very well. It was cancer and it took her quite quickly. But I raised her daughter from the age of 12yrs. We would probably never have been good friends, but I grieved her loss for my "foster" daughter and her siblings.

I cant explain beyond that why I felt such grief at the loss of this woman .. but then I weep at sad movies and am a bit of a sucker like that.

But I dont think its bad or wrong to mourn the loss of someone... especially someone close to you ... and anyway there are no rules against it

Post by **Avatar** » Fri Feb 02, 2018 5:03 am

It's not bad, or wrong. And of course in the moment there is shock and loss.

But at the end of the day, the person you're mourning has no more problems or pain or worry. To me at least it seems more a way of feeling sorry for yourself. (When it's directly related to you anyway. If you're mourning with somebody else, then it's empathy with their loss.)

Either way, looks like it's not about to be an immediate issue, although that said, you never can tell.

--A

Post by **Skyweir** » Fri Feb 02, 2018 7:07 am

Post by **Avatar** » Mon Feb 05, 2018 4:40 am

Yeah well...still not looking great I guess, but that's life.

Monday and here we go round again.

Getting a bit bored to be honest.

--A

Post by **Sorus** » Tue Feb 06, 2018 2:57 am

Bored? We can't have that.

Post by **Avatar** » Tue Feb 06, 2018 4:54 am

Doesn't appear to be much option other than like revolution or something.

And that's probably too much excitement.

--A

Post by **Skyweir** » Tue Feb 06, 2018 10:48 am

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How Do You Feel Today? v4