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You're approaching this from the wrong direction SeaReach. First make yourself happy, then if you have any time left over, give a thought to all these other people.Seareach wrote:I'm really down. I no longer know how to make everyone happy...not that I ever did to begin with but I tried.
Excellent advice, Avatar.Avatar wrote:You're approaching this from the wrong direction SeaReach. First make yourself happy, then if you have any time left over, give a thought to all these other people.Seareach wrote:I'm really down. I no longer know how to make everyone happy...not that I ever did to begin with but I tried.
Waddley wrote:your Highness Sir Dr. Loredoctor, PhD, Esq, the Magnificent, First of his name, Second Cousin of Dragons, White-Gold-Plate Wielder!
Seareach wrote:I'm really down. I no longer know how to make everyone happy...not that I ever did to begin with but I tried. I feel so run down at the moment, my body is in rebellion. I feel like I'm doing so many things for other people that I've left no time for myself. And I don't know what my motivations for doing these things are anymore. I keep saying to myself "why is it so important" and I think I know the answer...but I hate the answer...so I kid myself, I pretend I'm doing these things for the "right" reasons. Somehow I don't think I am.
John is the kind of guy you love to hate. He is always in a good mood and always has something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, "If I were any better, I would be twins!"
He was a natural motivator.
If an employee was having a bad day, John was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.
Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up and asked him, "I don't get it!
You can't be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?"
He replied, "Each morning I wake up and say to myself, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or ... you can choose to be in a bad mood.
I choose to be in a good mood."
Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or...I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it.
Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or... I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life.
"Yeah, right, it's not that easy," I protested.
"Yes, it is," he said. "Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people affect your mood.
You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. The bottom line: It's your choice how you live your life."
I reflected on what he said. Soon hereafter, I left the Tower Industry to start my own business. We lost touch, but I often thought about him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it.
Several years later, I heard that he was involved in a serious accident, falling some 60 feet from a communications tower.
After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, he was released from the hospital with rods placed in his back.
I saw him about six months after the accident.
When I asked him how he was, he replied, "If I were any better, I'd be twins Wanna see my scars?"
I declined to see his wounds, but I did ask him what had gone through his mind as the accident took place.
"The first thing that went through my mind was the well-being of my soon-to-be born daughter," he replied. "Then, as I lay on the ground, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live or...I could choose to die. I chose to live."
"Weren't you scared? Did you lose consciousness?" I asked.
He continued, "..the paramedics were great.
They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the ER and I saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read 'he's a dead man'. I knew I needed to take action."
"What did you do?" I asked.
"Well, there was a big burly nurse shouting questions at me," said John. "She asked if I was allergic to anything. 'Yes, I replied.' The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply. I took a deep breath and yelled, 'Gravity'."
Over their laughter, I told them, "I am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead."
He lived, thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude... I learned from him that every day we have the choice to live fully.
Attitude, after all, is everything.
Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own." Matthew 6:34.
After all today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday.
Think Positive & Live.
You have two choices now:
01. Delete this.
02. Forward it to the people you care about.
You know the choice I made.
sgtnull wrote:lore: i'm saving a chapter in my novel for the rejection notices. some good will come from all the negative.
Good idea. Thanks for the advice.Waddley wrote:your Highness Sir Dr. Loredoctor, PhD, Esq, the Magnificent, First of his name, Second Cousin of Dragons, White-Gold-Plate Wielder!
You have support here, Ms Mary.MsMaryMalone wrote:I feel depressed. I have no support system in my career field, and very little personal support system, and I don't know how to get one at this late date.
Whatever you do, don't be like that. Love yourself each day, don't put demands on yourself.MsMaryMalone wrote:I am also being very hard on myself today.
Waddley wrote:your Highness Sir Dr. Loredoctor, PhD, Esq, the Magnificent, First of his name, Second Cousin of Dragons, White-Gold-Plate Wielder!
Well, the Hall is pretty unactive in the first place. 96% of my poems go unheard, but I don't mind. Guess it's different for everyone. I just wouldn't take much stock in how a subforum on an obscure message board receives your poem, heh.Variol Farseer wrote:Late last night I wrote some verses touching upon this matter, which I posted in the Hall of Gifts where they have had the usual reception.
