Loss and Pain

[Lorelei]

We all rock!

oh and dAN, people bug you to draw and write cause you're good at it...

I can't even draw stick figures.. LOL


The totally weird thing is that I'm in two seperate grief stages with each parent so I'm experiencing really wild mood swings. I'm sure I'd be in a padded cell if it weren't for you all!

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Uh, I hate to break it to you...

...this is the padded cell.

--A

[jwaneeta]

Uh, I hate to break it to you...

...this is the padded cell.

--A

Heh. Where's the med trolly? I get antsy when it runs late...

[sgt.null]

having experienced med calls at a county jail, state hospital and state prison i can vouch that a good time is had by all.

[Trapper]

Lorelei:

Take some emotional time out for yourself. May I just also say that if there is any potential conflict with others who share your loss then you should avoid that person or seek professional mediation if you can't.

Like many above I'd like to give you a hug...

Best of luck.

[duchess of malfi]

One thing that has been happening with me lately that I wanted to ask others about is that does any other sort of loss brings some of the pain back?

Lorelei - I hope this might be a personal idiosyncracy of mine and not something that you will have to face in the future...

I've been really down lately, since my older son has gone off to school. I miss him like crazy, and all of this past grief is coming out right now and I have been thinking of all of these other people I miss...my father who passed away a couple of years ago...a wonderful friend who commited suicide several years ago...a friend I dearly love that I felt I had to break things off with a couple of years ago and whom I was never able to work any sort of anything out with after that...I miss all of these people everyday, and somehow with my son being gone all of these emotions are just all out and churning.

I feel like complete shit right now. Whenever I have been alone the past few days, all I do is cry.

Has anyone else gone through anything like this? Is this at all normal? That past losses come back to haunt you from time to time?

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Of course it's normal Duchess. As normal as a good memory bringing forth other good memories.

I don't see any reason why recent loss, missing your son, shouldn't call to mind other losses that have been more permanent.

Don't worry about it too much. The good memories will become stronger in time again.

--A

[jwaneeta]

Dof M,

This is perfectly normal. When I was chucked from the monastery I relived every emotion of being rejected by my family and left on the street at 15. That's how the mind works.

Pain is terrible. And the mind's abilty to rewind pain is terrible. It's agony.

But I can say two things: if you can speak of it, as you're doing here, you're doing the healthiest thing possible.

And if you have reached the point where you simply ask: how much longer is this going to hurt?

- you're 3/4 through the worst of it.

I wish I could do more. It's hell, I know.