How do you feel today?
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I feel. . . a bit conflicted. It's a bit complicated, so I guess I have to explain.
I met a guy several weeks ago through friends of a friend. Since then I've run into him and we've talked very briefly two-three times. Each time he seemed to be giving off signals that he was interested in me--smiling at me, looking right into my eyes, etc. I hear (and have observed) that he is a very quiet, shy person. He apparently warms up and is very talkative once someone starts talking to him, though. I'm interested in getting to know him better, but the fact that he isn't making any move to get to know me better makes me wonder if I am misreading the signals. I mean, he could easily arrange to hang out with me and my friends, or make a move when I do run into him on occassion with his friends.
Gah! I'm sooo rusty at this whole dating thing. Ordinarily I'd say that he isn't that into me, and just move on, but the fact that he is supershy makes me wonder if he just isn't ready to make a move yet.
I'm conflicted because I don't know what to do about the situation: 1) encourage him, 2)ask him out--not exactly comfortable with this, or 3) write him off entirely.
Men are sooo confusing.
I met a guy several weeks ago through friends of a friend. Since then I've run into him and we've talked very briefly two-three times. Each time he seemed to be giving off signals that he was interested in me--smiling at me, looking right into my eyes, etc. I hear (and have observed) that he is a very quiet, shy person. He apparently warms up and is very talkative once someone starts talking to him, though. I'm interested in getting to know him better, but the fact that he isn't making any move to get to know me better makes me wonder if I am misreading the signals. I mean, he could easily arrange to hang out with me and my friends, or make a move when I do run into him on occassion with his friends.

Gah! I'm sooo rusty at this whole dating thing. Ordinarily I'd say that he isn't that into me, and just move on, but the fact that he is supershy makes me wonder if he just isn't ready to make a move yet.
I'm conflicted because I don't know what to do about the situation: 1) encourage him, 2)ask him out--not exactly comfortable with this, or 3) write him off entirely.
Men are sooo confusing.

What Balon said, Lyr!
Just make it a very casual thing first, a simple cup of coffee/day meet in a public place (shyboys get so scared of confident women!! hahaha) Just talk. And drink non-alc stuff. Then you get to know the person better. And yeah, shyboys need to be coaxed outa their shell, SLOWLY.
Just make it a very casual thing first, a simple cup of coffee/day meet in a public place (shyboys get so scared of confident women!! hahaha) Just talk. And drink non-alc stuff. Then you get to know the person better. And yeah, shyboys need to be coaxed outa their shell, SLOWLY.




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Hehehe. . . I'm not a very confident woman. That's the problem. I'm usually quite oblivious to men who are interested in me. In fact, I'm usually the last one to know that they're interested. I seem to stumble into relationships. No, I'm not a confident woman. . . just envision a more nerdy Bridget Jones and you've got me.Elfgirl wrote:What Balon said, Lyr!
Just make it a very casual thing first, a simple cup of coffee/day meet in a public place (shyboys get so scared of confident women!! hahaha) Just talk. And drink non-alc stuff. Then you get to know the person better. And yeah, shyboys need to be coaxed outa their shell, SLOWLY.

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Men, particularly shy men, tend to like it when a woman makes the first move. It's flattering, and a huge relief; we're so often expected to do all the chasing/asking out/etc that it can be quite intimidating. Also, I've never asked a girl out and got a yes; that kind of track record isn't uncommon and can easily add to the existing intimidation factor.Wyldewode wrote:Hehehe. . . I'm not a very confident woman. That's the problem. I'm usually quite oblivious to men who are interested in me. In fact, I'm usually the last one to know that they're interested. I seem to stumble into relationships. No, I'm not a confident woman. . . just envision a more nerdy Bridget Jones and you've got me.Elfgirl wrote:What Balon said, Lyr!
Just make it a very casual thing first, a simple cup of coffee/day meet in a public place (shyboys get so scared of confident women!! hahaha) Just talk. And drink non-alc stuff. Then you get to know the person better. And yeah, shyboys need to be coaxed outa their shell, SLOWLY.
Don't worry about coming across as confident. It's fine to be nervous and a bit Bridget-like.


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One of my best friends is ignoring me, because he has a new girlfriend. Mleh. I wish him well and all, but I miss the time we used to spend together. I also know when all is said and done, he will come running back to me, and the question is, will I be stupid enough to wait for him, or will I be smart enough to move on?
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He's just a friend, right? I say give him a break. If' he's an on-again off-again boyfriend, I say mave on. But hell, I'm not quite Dear Abbey, so do what you want. 

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