What do you do?

Post by **Seareach** » Tue Mar 08, 2011 11:44 pm

ya know, I'm with Av: more information (unless of course you're just *really* shallow, Vain)...

....yes...I'm RUNNIN'................................................

Post by **lurch** » Wed Mar 09, 2011 12:52 am

Vain wrote:Go for the hot 26 year old redhead....or not?

What? I mean..where would I be going for the hot 26 year old that the hot 26 year old couldn't or will not go herself? Are you talkin to the corner store? I beg your pardon, do I look like somebody's errand boy,,at their beck and call? Okay, maybe if I was the father of the child or children in her womb and said hot red head 26 year old was having a craving for some butterscotch ice cream and kosher dill pickles..Sure, I'd go for her to the corner store. Thats the least I could do. I'd go to the Louve Museum for her,,MOMA, Canne Film Festival..not to sure about Sundance. Heard that has kinda commercialized itself out but heck, there is plenty of places I 'd go for her. Theres plenty of places I wouldn't go for her. Newark NJ ,,Akron Ohio, Bagdad, Calcutta, ..nooo, not even Moscow USSR..not these days. Hey, if she, the 26 yr old hot red head don't wanna go there ,,I probably ain't goin there. Not with her carrying my twins or triplets, uuhh uh!...But after she ..the red hot head 26 yr old dropped the kids, heck, she can go any where she wants to.

Post by **sgt.null** » Wed Mar 09, 2011 1:46 am

go for it - better stories to tell your grand children.

Post by **dANdeLION** » Wed Mar 09, 2011 5:15 am

Follow your heart, that's my advice. Of course, that's pretty much in contradiction with the bible, which says the heart's one devious bastard. Also, it's in contradiction with my own experiences, but what the hell, I'm probably just unlucky. Anyway, people are a little more complicated than you guys are making them out to be; shit, categorizing them by their hair color's almost as bad as categorizing them by their skin color.

Post by **sgt.null** » Wed Mar 09, 2011 7:06 am

mike watt said it best...

Post by **Vain** » Wed Mar 09, 2011 9:08 am

Lurch - you're an interesting person

And mayhaps it's a similar dilemma Drew - does one leave the familiar moorings that are no longer shiny and new to chase after a new reality, or does one just drop the anchor and let the barnacles grow?

It's even more interesting trying to view it from an almost disconnected and purely logical way - almost quizzical.

I should share a picture really

Post by **Seareach** » Wed Mar 09, 2011 9:11 am

Vain wrote:And mayhaps it's a similar dilemma Drew - does one leave the familiar moorings that are no longer shiny and new to chase after a new reality, or does one just drop the anchor and let the barnacles grow?

Depends on whether one really enjoys forever being at sea....

Post by **sgt.null** » Wed Mar 09, 2011 12:47 pm

Vain wrote: I should share a picture really

yes

Post by **Cagliostro** » Wed Mar 09, 2011 4:13 pm

sgt.null wrote:mike watt said it best...

Well, tell him to stop. He's making the rest of us look bad.

Post by **peter** » Wed Mar 09, 2011 4:31 pm

Have you ever experinced the crushed look on the face of the one who still loves you and that you belatedly realise that you still love (because those old familiar moorings can be beautiful too, yet you just lost for a while the ability to see it) when they find out that the person they trusted did the thing that they (that person) would not do to their best friend (why is it we cheat on the ones we love when we would never cheat on our friends - is friendship in fact a stronger bond than love?) - well have you? It takes strength to be that bad. Hmmm........

Post by **Seareach** » Thu Mar 10, 2011 12:03 am

peter wrote:Why is it we cheat on the ones we love when we would never cheat on our friends - is friendship in fact a stronger bond than love?

I don't think so. I think that relationships (with spouses/partners/etc) are just a whole lot more complicated and that we expect more out of them (and from them--our partners) than we do friendships...which might be the wrong thing to do but I think it's a very human thing to do.

Post by **Avatar** » Thu Mar 10, 2011 5:13 am

That's exactly why it's easier to be honest with strangers. They have no expectations of you.

--A

Post by **danlo** » Thu Mar 10, 2011 5:49 am

I've only had one person cheat on me, then again, she cheated on the whole town...

Post by **Vain** » Thu Mar 10, 2011 9:26 am

peter wrote:Have you ever experinced the crushed look on the face of the one who still loves you and that you belatedly realise that you still love (because those old familiar moorings can be beautiful too, yet you just lost for a while the ability to see it) when they find out that the person they trusted did the thing that they (that person) would not do to their best friend (why is it we cheat on the ones we love when we would never cheat on our friends - is friendship in fact a stronger bond than love?) - well have you? It takes strength to be that bad. Hmmm........

Ahhh you pre-suppose much here.

But I do wonder if we're actually designed to spend forever with one person - or even two. Surely as time moves on, we evolve and change and need different things? It's acceptable to have many girl/boy friends - but not to be married more than once or twice or thrice. Surely there's an unreasonable contractual expectation in all of that.

Post by **Infelice** » Thu Mar 10, 2011 10:13 am

sgt.null wrote:mike watt said it best...

Actually I think Mike Patton said it better.

Post by **aliantha** » Thu Mar 10, 2011 1:18 pm

Avatar wrote:That's exactly why it's easier to be honest with strangers. They have no expectations of you.

--A

And strangers won't throw it in your face later.

Post by **Damelon** » Thu Mar 10, 2011 1:25 pm

peter wrote:Why is it we cheat on the ones we love when we would never cheat on our friends - is friendship in fact a stronger bond than love?

Ideally, one's partner should be one's friend.

Post by **peter** » Thu Mar 10, 2011 4:20 pm

Vain wrote:Ahhh you pre-suppose much here.

In the absence of enough information to base a proper answer on I pre-supposed the worst so that i) the advice (for surely that is what the question asked for) would meet the worst case scenario and ii) your attention would be grabbed (which indeed it was). If the situation is not so dire as my answer implies then no harm is done; if it is then at least I furnish you with good experience from one who has (at times) drained the bitter cup of life.

Perhaps you are right that we are not meant for long lasting or even one to one relationships late into life (though my experience would not support this); this idea is fine as long as BOTH parties in a relationship agree from the start that this is the way things will be, otherwise it's just a case of trying to have your cake and eat it.

Post by **Infelice** » Thu Mar 10, 2011 10:38 pm

Damelon wrote:
peter wrote:Why is it we cheat on the ones we love when we would never cheat on our friends - is friendship in fact a stronger bond than love?
Ideally, one's partner should be one's friend.

Yep i agree.

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