I think you've seen right through me there, and my deliberate avoidance of discussing the gender of the parents in question.rusmeister wrote:(I guess I can't say "two-parent family" anymore, because you may now imagine something different from what I mean, from what everyone always understood until now.)
I think it's worth considering that a rejection of traditional gender roles also calls into question the supposition that exposure to a role model of both genders is necessary (or simply desirable) for the fullness of a child's development (for lack of a better way to phrase it).
Regarding the consideration of Orthodoxy, I think what you regularly fail to account for is that I and many others do not come to atheism from a position of rejecting certain western forms of christianity - in my own case I have never belonged to any such faith and, though the schools I attended were arguably of an Anglican bent (typical in England), was raised in a religion-free environment - but from having rejected the fundamental basis of all religions: the potential existance of a higher being with authority over our ultimate fates.
When the conclusion we have reached in our appraisal of faith is that God is a highly unlikely prospect, no form of Christianity is going to look any more correct simply through a different interpretation and expression of that belief in God.