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Everloving chickenplucking mothertrucking jerks.

www.nbcnews.com/news/world/american-mis ... ia-n311721

The reason why this news is so particularly unwelcome for me is that it is one more click on the ratchet-jaw of inevitability, the final pinch which will be me having to leave the work and people I love in Nigeria because between criminals, terrorists, and corruption, we just won't be able to take it anymore.

If you read the news at all you have an idea of what a funked-up chaotic mess this country is. Institutions like the school I work at are islands in a wild and polluted sea of s*%t. Every school year we "increase security", but there is only so far you can go before the guards carry AKs, which goes against the Brethren ethos that founded the school. "Boko Haram" is usually interpreted as "Western Education is forbidden" (more literally, "books forbidden") and I work at the most prominent American school in the country in a city already declared to be BH's next target (although Islamists have been rumored to have been saying this for years, and here we still are).

Kidnappings of foreigners for money is practically an industry here. I knew a British surgeon who was kidnapped from his home, wounded by a bullet fragment in the process, and spent a week waiting for release. Meanwhile he tried to make friends with the kidnappers, who treated him kindly (if you overlook the fact that they kept him locked up and refused him medical treatment while his arm became infected). He asked them how they had come to such a desperate pass in their lives. One of them told him, "I went to welding school, but after I graduated I had no money to capitalize my business. So I went into the kidnapping business." The Dr noted that when the men received the money, they prayed over it and thanked God. :?

Many people here already think we're nuts for staying on, and you may be right. You have to consider that our lives are here. We have really good friends and jobs we both adore and that's saying a lot when there is so much here that completely sucks. Roads, medical care (a friend of mine was airlifted to Kenya for treatment a couple of days ago because the doctors here told them they just didn't have it here), schools are terrible, power cuts happen several times a day, food prices skyrocket, etc etc etc. There is every reason to get the freak out of here....except... we just can't. Push will really have to come to shove before we leave Nigeria. (For the first time EVER, Stag of the Dawn broached the subject of going someplace safer, say... Liberia; if Nigeria explodes. He has NEVER done that, always thought he'd be buried here. Just another *click* of the ratchet.

Well I'd better shut the front door. Thanks for reading while I rant.
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:hug: :hug: :hug:

A tough decision indeed, Deer. I won't presume to give you any advice, but here's another hug: :hug:

And I hope the missionary who was kidnapped turns out to be okay.
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Unfortunately I know this too well. A friend of mine that works in the oil industry had one of his colleagues kidnapped and murdered in Nigeria not too years ago. It's one of the few places in the world where he stays in his hotel room and doesn't venture out.

Sorry to hear that things have got so bad for you there.
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Take care, Deer.

One day you might wish you had left when you knew you should have. Don't let that day come.
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deer of the dawn wrote:The Dr noted that when the men received the money, they prayed over it and thanked God. :?
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(For the first time EVER, Stag of the Dawn broached the subject of going someplace safer, say... Liberia; if Nigeria explodes. He has NEVER done that, always thought he'd be buried here. Just another *click* of the ratchet.
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I worry about you every time Nigeria shows up in the news - it's never good news, but is it anywhere? I couldn't live there, but at the same time, I understand the value of what you would be giving up if you left.

Can't offer any advice, but stay safe.

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wayfriend wrote:One day you might wish you had left when you knew you should have. Don't let that day come.
Yeah, it's a fine line.

deer of the dawn wrote:The Dr noted that when the men received the money, they prayed over it and thanked God. :?
Haha, I'll never forget how once, in my mis-spent youth, I walked into an inner city hotel bar to meet a Nigerian drug dealer, only to find him on his knees on the bar floor, witnessing to a prayer circle. :D

I politely waited until he had finished, whereupon he cheerfully sold me a few grams of coke. :D

Take care up there Deer, and good luck. I hope it all works out for you.

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Thank you to all for the love!!! |G

Avatar, your anecdote pretty much sums up the national character of Nigeria. :roll:
wayfriend wrote: One day you might wish you had left when you knew you should have. Don't let that day come.
Exactly. We have commitments to honor, but this is in our thoughts daily.
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Stay safe.

I can only offer the example of my son. He traveled almost a day to visit a place he was interested in seeing. And left after only a few hours. When I asked him why he had left so soon after such a long trip, he said, "It was time to go."

Hope you will be able to discern correctly when it is time to go.
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Thanks, Mary.
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deer- my advice, unasked and likely un-needed is to leave.
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I'm absolutely with Sarge on this. If you're thinking like this - then it's time to go. You have nothing but your senses to guide you, so heed them.
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I'm torn. On one hand, I'd want to say "get out of dodge" but I understand the feeling of love for a foreign culture that you have lived in and its people you have known. The decision was made for me from the beginning, but for years after I dreamed about being given the opportunity again and accepting it readily.

I'm also reminded of a saying that, loosely translated, states: "It's always better to die than to loose your life."

So, don't make a decision that you'll deeply regret... but dammit, be safe doing it!
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By now, I am sure people realize that Rev. Phyllis Sortor was released "unharmed". I hope she will share her story with the world.

As God would have it, schools were state-ordered to shut down for 3 weeks during elections. And I lost my BIL unexpectedly. So we are here in the US until elections are over. Of course, our return is contingent on political stability happening.

This is the first time I have come to the US and really did not wish to be here rather than Africa. It's too stinking cold where we are (Upstate NY and sub zero temps) and the situation with family is not happy.

Still, trying to make the best of every day. I have a Masters program online to keep me busy, and Fawn of the Dawn is here; Buck of the Dawn will be here later. That makes up for a lot.
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deer of the dawn wrote:This is the first time I have come to the US and really did not wish to be here rather than Africa.
Not sure I understand the thinking there ... but, anyway ... Hello! Welcome back!
deer of the dawn wrote:It's too stinking cold where we are (Upstate NY and sub zero temps)
(Ok, you got me there. ... Well, almost. On the one hand is cold, on the other hand is chaos.)
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wayfriend wrote:
deer of the dawn wrote:This is the first time I have come to the US and really did not wish to be here rather than Africa.
Not sure I understand the thinking there ... but, anyway ... Hello! Welcome back!
deer's here for a funeral due to an unexpected death in the family, way. :(
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Deer - you don't need me to say this but I will anyway because it is so important. Often violence can flare up post elections when the loosing side vents it's anger and frustration at [what it sees] as the con-trick that has been pulled on it. Give it time to be clearly stable before going back. Don't walk into the middle of a fire-storm.
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Deer, I'm glad you, your family and that woman are ok.

I have no advice because I have no idea what it's like.
Your stress levels must be pretty high there though.
Do you find it incredibly boring in the States?
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